If Variety Is The Spice…

Then Simplicity Is The Entrée

White tee, white jeans, striped yellow & white wedges, long gray hooded vest and white cane.Today’s world is moving at such a hectic pace it’s getting increasingly harder to keep up. Even though all of us operate within the same 24-hour parameter it can feel like there’s never enough time to do all we need or want to accomplish.

Since dealing with family situations, health related issues, financial problems, and just life, in general, can be overwhelming scaling back can be a helpful solution. Simplicity makes it a little easier by taking stress levels down a few notches and retaining sanity.

Tribal print sleeveless top, white jeans, striped yellow & white wedges, and white cane.I used to buy into the whole “variety is the spice of life” theory until I began to feel bogged down. It’s been almost a year since I started the process of getting rid of things I don’t want or need. While thinning out my wardrobe was a challenge I eagerly looked forward to, limiting the number of shoes I would keep caused me a bit of anxiety but I continue onward.

In today’s photos, I’m wearing two separate outfits with my favorite white jeans (the only pair I own) and yellow & white striped wedges. The only difference between the outfits are the tops. By the way, I’m not ashamed to admit I wear these jeans at least once a week.

It really isn’t necessary to have a ton of different clothes, shoes, and accessories to mix things up. Using a couple of key pieces, in this case, the jeans and shoes with different tops and handbags create different looks.

Life is difficult enough without the added worry of what to wear. Style doesn’t require a vast assortment of things.

Collage Descriptions:

  1. Posed standing in three photos wearing a white tee, white jeans, striped yellow & white wedges, long gray hooded vest and white cane.
  2. Seated on a bar stool wearing a black/white/tan tribal print sleeveless top, white jeans, striped yellow & white wedges, and white cane.

 

 

As Long As My Cane Will Unfold I’m Good!

A Life Changing Q&A With Sherry Ingram

"I think there are plenty of us who refuse to let our blindness lead us and want people to see us as attractive even sexy women first."You know how you can meet someone for the first time and automatically hit it off? From the moment Sherry Ingram shared her philosophy on beauty and blindness, I knew we would get along. So I asked her if she would be willing to do a Q&A with me for Bold Blind Beauty and she said yes.

Hi Sherry, during our first discussion we agreed that living with blindness isn’t sunshine and roses and we also agreed that prior to sight loss every day wasn’t sunshine and roses.

 1.  You seem to have struck a healthy balance after your accident and subsequent loss of sight, can you share with us what happened and how you were able to rebound?

Sure, It was 1987 and I was 26 at the time. I won’t bore you with details but I was involved in an accidental shooting and the result was I lost both my eyes. The shock of it is indescribable not to mention the physical injury you go through.

I was extremely lucky in that I was shot from the side of my head by a small-caliber bullet and it passed through both my eyes just millimeters from my brain. I suffered instant blindness but only minimal damage otherwise. I lost some sense of smell and I do have some short-term memory loss at times along with migraines they attribute to it.

My first thoughts were that this can’t be happening to me and there was no way my life could ever be worth anything again. There were those early days of depression over it but I never really felt anger in a heavy way. More frustration than anything.

I was a pretty fun-loving going all the time person before. I began to realize that I had lived through something I probably shouldn’t have and started to think, ok, there must be some reason I’m still here so I began to assess just what I was dealing with and began to want to be able to be independent and do things on my own again.

I decided I wanted a life even though it was going to be a much different one than I was used to. I decided I wanted to learn everything I could about how to be blind and I made that my challenge and started to accept it and recover.

I think realizing the fact that I was still alive, I was able to somewhat diminish the impact of becoming blind. I began to feel it was the lesser of two evils and doable compared to the alternative. This attitude allowed me to rebound and move on with my life.

2.  You told me that you believe just because we cannot see doesn’t mean we should let ourselves go. How were you able to adjust to maintaining a nice appearance after the loss of your eyesight?

At first, I felt a loss of my human side and with that my feminine side as well. I felt more like a statistic than a woman, much less an attractive woman as I had felt about myself before when I was sighted.

I enjoyed dressing nicely and doing the things that made people notice me and made me feel good about myself. I had lost that in my mind. I was very self-conscious at first about appearing different to people.

As I went through rehab and training several of my counselors were always alluding to making sure I kept a positive appearance both mentally and physically and that started to ring a bell in my head. I thought, ok if I feel I look nice to others again then my blindness might not be the focus of everyone’s attention.

I will admit it was a defensive move and yet it definitely put me in a better state of mind about how people saw me so I continued to try to better my appearance in every way I was capable as far as dressing in style and coordinating my clothes. Keeping my hair in style. Learning to apply makeup without a mirror (certainly a hit and miss trip at first) and even down to finding nice accessories and a few pairs of stylish sunglasses, not to hide from anything but to protect my face around my eyes if I run into anything and enhance my facial appearance at the same time.

I started getting compliments on how I looked and I could sense they were genuine and not condescending and it made me realize that even though I could not see myself and what I looked like anymore that other people certainly were taking note and in a positive way so that has made me continually strive to keep my appearance in the forefront. It’s so nice and such an ego boost to hear folks compliment me on how I look rather than asking questions about my blindness. It makes for a better day and mood knowing in my mind I look nice to others.

3.  Do you have any tips that might benefit some of our blind friends?

I think the best tip I can give is the one I always keep in my mind. Care about yourself! Just because you don’t see yourself doesn’t mean you should not care about how you look because others notice you.

Being a part of the sighted world for 26 years, I’m well aware it’s a visual world and that’s how most impressions are made. When I think in those terms I know I want people to see me in a good way and have a positive impression of me. I think it allows them to relax and interact with me much easier than if I didn’t keep a positive appearance.

4.  What is your favorite fashion accessory?

I enjoy going casual anytime I can, but I like some of the following things depending on how dressy I feel I should be. I like simple earrings. Posts, hoops. I will wear pendants and necklaces.

I will sometimes wear a single bracelet on my non-cane arm above my watch. I like colorful scarves. I like my bag to be a crossover strap bag but not too large and smooth, not ornate, just enough to carry my purse and my folded cane and a few items. And I mentioned earlier a nice stylish pair of sunglasses. I prefer the darker lenses rather than partially tinted ones.

5.  Do you have a favorite makeup or skincare line that you use?

I like some of the St. Ives skin care products, especially their facial scrubs. I don’t use a lot of makeup on my face but I do like the Revlon products. I use their complexion makeup and the powder blushes mostly. I like neutral color lip gloss. I do very little around or directly with my eyes.

Thank you, Sherry, for sharing your remarkable story of survival, the power of the human will, the importance of feeling good and the role it plays in how we interact with others. You’ve demonstrated so perfectly how life can be treasured and lived well after coming out on the other side of tragedy. I am so blessed to have connected with you and I treasure our newfound friendship.

Image Descriptions With Sherry’s Quotes:

  1. Several orchids | “I think there are plenty of us who refuse to let our blindness lead us and want people to see us as attractive even sexy women first.”
  2. Makeup mirror, lipstick & brush | “I’m a firm believer that we should not let our appearance go simply because we don’t see ourselves anymore.”
  3. Ballerina | “It’s very satisfying to me when I receive compliments on how I look from people. It makes me aware that they notice me for something other than just a blind woman.”

 

Father’s Day

“He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” ~Clarence Budington Kelland

Description is in the body of the post. When I was growing up my father wasn’t really in the picture but I had a grandpa who was there. My grandpa died when I was young but I remember his gentle loving spirit. He was a quiet hard-working man of great character and this quote reminded me of him.

I watch my son with his son and it’s so beautiful to experience the love that these two people share for one another. Orion loves his mom and dad like crazy and I’m so honored to be a part of their lives.

Happy Father’s Day to my son Arian and to all you dads out there!!

Image Description: Precious moment of a father and his toddler son walking hand in hand through the grass.

Have a stupendous day!!😘

 

Forever On The Move

“Walking in confidence, regardless of the status of our lives – this is a beautiful thing” – Abigail B.

Image description is in the body of the post.A couple of weeks ago we heard from the lady herself. Today Abigail’s agent gives us her exciting back story. Enjoy!

Abigail (Abby) is a bold and stylish fashion icon who walks in confidence – and of course always with her white cane – reflecting the beauty of blind and visually impaired sisters throughout the world. A true fashionista who radiates a level of hip sophistication, Abby is forever on the move, providing tips and techniques, answering questions and moderating discussions about style and fashion. Due to her vast experience and life adventures, Abby also helps us change the way we perceive blindness with the goal to improve humanity, one attitude at a time.

So what’s in a name? – Abigail springs from “Abilities” + “nightingale” reflecting her boundless Abilities since she certainly doesn’t let her blindness define her; and Nightingale – the small ordinary bird best known for its extraordinary and beautiful song of the night and for being an important symbol of freedom and joy for authors and poets throughout time. And what does the “B” stand for? Abby won’t say, but many speculate that it might stand for Bold, Blind or Beauty, or perhaps it just means to “Be” – all you can be.

Abby’s Fortitude – Abby evolved into the on-the-move fashion icon she is today after experiencing what can only be described as an exceptional growth spurt from infancy to a young stylish woman of indeterminate age. Even though she was diagnosed with a rare genetic eye disease that has stolen a large portion of her sight, Abby was determined to not let this set her back. Rather she decided to embrace her blindness, access the tools available for the blind and visually impaired, and move forward with her life.

Global Adventures – After graduating magna cum laude from her Ivy League school in business and law, Abby immediately landed at a prestigious global law firm on Wall Street and advanced to managing partner. This would be enough for most women, let alone those with a disAbility, but Abby felt there was more to life than just business, so she took a much-needed hiatus from the high-pressured corporate world and became an avid adventurer, traveling the four corners of the world. Abby scaled the highest mountains, sailed the stormy seas, explored the deepest caverns, strutted the runways of the major fashion capitals of the world, met a diverse array of people from all walks of life, and even led a jazz trio as a popular singer!

Putting it all together – With these incredible experiences under her belt, Abby was ready to combine her well-honed business and legal skills with her passion for fashion and apply it all to something important to her – empowering other women with blindness to be all they can be. So now she is putting her wicked mad skills to work as a fashionista here at boldblindbeauty.com where she will provide tips and techniques, answer questions and moderate the discussion on fashion and style.

In Her Spare Time – When Abby isn’t working or volunteering at a children’s school for the blind, she enjoys painting (yes, blind people can paint!). She now resides in a beautiful and comfortable home with fashionable décor from her travels all over the world, along with the love of her life, Alexis, her adorable Yellow Lab, a retired guide dog.

Finding AbbyAbby can be found exclusively here at boldblindbeauty.com, the site that brings women together to share in the beauty of fashion and style in a community that encourages empowerment and camaraderie. The added benefit of connecting the sighted and non-sighted worlds helps eradicate misconceptions and long-held stereotypes about people with blindness or vision loss.

Abby can also help you find great fashion and style items at her very cool e-commerce site Abigail Style, where she lets your attitude dictate your fashion direction with stylish apparel and related merchandise designed by visually impaired women for both sighted and non-sighted women.

You can join Abby on boldblindbeauty.com at Abby’s Corner where discussions are always about fashion and style – and being bold, blind and beautiful!

Image Description: Abby the icon is illustrated walking confidently with her handbag in one hand and the white cane in the other while her exquisite hairstyle floats about her head. She is wearing heels and her dress is made of individual panels resembling overlapping banana leaves. The dress panels gently curve from her nipped in waist to just above the knee. In this image, Abby is superimposed in the center of a city street crosswalk.

Disclaimer: The white cane icon “Abigail B. (Abby)” is copyrighted and was specifically created for, and is the property of, Bold Blind Beauty and Abigail Style, LLC and is not a replacement for the nationally recognized white cane icon. 

Abigail (Abby) and her back story are a work of fiction. Names, characters, places, events, and incidents are either the products of the author’s imagination or used in a fictitious manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.