5 Tips To Destination Fabulous For Blind & VI Women

The Harmony of Beauty & Blindness

It’s not about the dress you wear, but it’s about the life you lead in the dress.” ~Diana Vreeland

Living in a culture that places a great amount of emphasis on physical beauty, as blind and VI women we can often feel left out. However, in some ways, I believe we are better equipped to appreciate the beauty in the world around us since the lack of sight helps us to filter out those things that do not enhance our lives.

    1. Be You – Delight in your femininity. Love you. Validate you. Trust you. As you begin each day remind yourself that you are enough. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and reject the notion that you have to fit in. Be courageous, be authentic, know your worth. 
    2. Grooming – Think of yourself as a work of art. Treat yourself as the masterpiece you are by prepping the canvas that is you; bask in the practice of daily personal grooming.
    3. Cosmetics – Let go of the belief there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Choose to wear cosmetics because you want to experience the feeling of a physical transformation and not because you feel pressured to conform.
    4. Clothing– Wear what you like; like what you wear, and above all else wear it with confidence. If it doesn’t make you feel good, ditch it. Your wardrobe is an outward reflection of you, it requires great care and attention. 
    5. Accessories – Indulge in accents to supplement your outfit and unleash your personality. From jewelry, bags, belts, footwear, headwear (including wigs) and let’s not forget our white canes.

Beauty is so much more than a shiny exterior. Beauty, real beauty, is deep, passionate, and resides in the essence of you; your character.

Being real is fabulous!

Image: Real Beauty Transcends Barriers | “It’s about walking boldly with confidence, transcending barriers and changing the way we perceive one another.”  Sexy red midi dress, black heels, black handbag and the white cane. Image is the property of http://www.boldblindbeauty.com and http://www.abigailstyle.com

Learning To Be Present Through The Loss Of Sight

“I never thought I could “go through that” until going through “that” was the best alternative.”

Being a pragmatic person who has to have loads of information, then weigh the pros and cons, when faced with a situation where the path forward appears murky I try to find another path. When my eyesight began dwindling away and pathways to vision restoration closed down I was stopped in my tracks.

Residing in a state of denial during the span of time from when I was declared legally blind up until I needed to begin using the white cane was my new reality. The fear wasn’t so much the blindness rather it was the not knowing what was ahead.

Since the decline of my eyesight was so severe it was excruciating not being able to see further than my new limitation. The white cane became not only my lifeline but the tool that would be my eyes so that I could relax and travel safely.

I feel so vulnerable when I take my dog, Mollie, outside because it’s not practical to use my white cane. Without the cane, my steps are a little unsure and I have to trust Mollie to warn me if an animal or person invades our space.

It occurred to me that it’s within this range of either Mollie or my white cane that I’m safe. No, I can’t determine what’s beyond the range but that’s okay because all I have to concern myself with is where I’m at now.

On Mother’s Day, I felt that same sense of safety as me and several family members had dinner with my mother at the nursing home. We laughed and had such a great time enjoying each other’s company I didn’t even look at my phone except to take a picture of my grandson.

I know that time is winding down not just for my mother but all of us. More and more each day I am given I enjoy my loved ones and can’t imagine what life would be like without them.

Life is way too short to waste it focusing on things we have no control over. Live life now and be in the moment.

Low Key Ensemble

What I wore: Ann Taylor black tee (old), black leggings, black crisscross heels | DSW, gray long hooded vest, and of course my white cane. I wore a long silver toned tassel necklace, cuff bracelet, and earrings.

A Mother’s Day Wish

Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.
~Sharon Jaynes

A pretty flower in shades of lavender against a white background. Includes the quote "Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles." Sharon Jaynes from Bold Blind BeautyMy sons will tell you I was never one of those mothers who would win a “Mother Of The Year” award. Raising three boys as a single parent was far from idyllic and many days I wanted so badly to throw in the towel.

The massive responsibility of cultivating young minds was a task in which I never felt so inept. Looking at my adult sons today, any success at motherhood wasn’t because of anything I’ve done rather it came about as a result of the changes that took place in me because of my children.

Sacrifice is at the heart of motherhood. It begins the moment we accept our children and continues until our last breath.

For all you moms, and this includes those who serve in the role of motherhood, I wish you a Happy Mother’s Day from Bold Blind Beauty!

Fabulous, Functional & Frugal Fashion Tip #27

Date Night Style Emergencies 101

Picture this, after months of playful flirting back and forth you’ve finally gotten the courage to ask your neighbor down the hall out on a date at a popular jazz club in the city. He said “yes” now it’s a mad dash to the beauty salon to get hair and nails done.

After you’ve been beautified, you carefully select the perfect outfit, black midi pencil skirt, off the shoulder white top, strappy black heeled sandals, teardrop post earrings, bracelet, crossover bag, and white cane. Now the fun begins as you transform into the glamorous, enchanting creature residing inside you. Then 10 minutes before “Go Time” the unthinkable happens…

On the way to do one last makeup check you trip over Fluffy, your adorable little rescue mutt. Landing with a thud on the bedroom carpet not only did you snag a fingernail, you’ve lost the back to one of your earrings, your top is slightly askew, and worse yet your black skirt is now covered in Fluffy’s white hair. Drat!

With no time to waste you hurriedly grab your emergency kit and get to work. The lint remover sheets do a remarkable job getting rid of the dog hair on the skirt. Next, you pick up your missing earring find the tiny hypoallergenic earring back, reinserted the post and secure with the clear back. Using the double-sided tape on the inside of your top ensures it will remain in place.

The miniature emery board makes quick work on the snagged fingernail but as time counts down, because everyone knows women don’t sweat, your underarms begin glistening. Not to worry though, your kit has adhesive garment shields. Yet another emergency averted.

Two minutes left before your dates comes a calling you’re finally standing at the bathroom mirror applying your mineral veil to set your makeup and none too soon as you hear a knock at the door. Snatching your white cane, and bag (complete with the emergency kit) you glide to the door appearing cool as the proverbial cucumber.

When you open the door standing before you is the man of your dreams. Taking his proffered arm the two of you head to the car. Once you’re belted in and he prepares to start the car he gazes at you then slightly bends his head as you part your lips and you hear him gently whisper “you’ve got something on your top.” Hmm, you didn’t see that coming but no worries because you’re prepared with your Tide To Go in your emergency kit.

Contents In Fashion Emergency Kit Photo:

  • Hollywood Fashion Double-sided Clear Tape
  • Deodorant Removing Sponge – for removing deodorant, makeup or powder smudges from clothing
  • Adhesive No-Show Concealers (shaped like a clover) are used to create a smooth appearance by deperkifying
  • Breast Lift Tape – similar to fashion tape for when a bra isn’t required
  • Adhesive Garment Shields
  • 2 Safety-Pins
  • 2 Instant Self-Adhesive Buttons
    3″ x 3″ Lint Removing Sheets
  • Clear Rubber Hypo-Allergenic Earring Back
  • Clear Rubber Hair Band
  • Small Emery Board
  • 1 Round Blister Pad
  • Shoe Shine Sponge
  • Vial of Static Guard
  • Tide To Go
  • Silver Crystal Embellished Wristlet

Hollywood Fashion Secrets come as individual components or premade kits. Aside from the actual site you can find the products at the following stores: Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, Beauty.com, Amazon, and others.

In can neither confirm nor deny whether the events in this post actually occurred. But the moral of the story: Never let ’em see you sweat!😉

Have a very nice weekend!