“We try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.”
~Colleen Hoover, Maybe Someday
Hi everyone, have you ever felt upset or angry about a specific situation? I’m sure you all have. Has anyone ever said or made you feel like your feelings weren’t valid? Most likely.
Sometimes we feel a certain way about situations and other people might not understand why. Other people might not have the same reaction to that situation. That is okay.
I have been trying to find jobs and it has been really difficult. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster because somedays I feel confident about finding a job. Then there are days where I feel really upset and angry about the process of trying to find a job. Since last February I have been working on building up a business. I am happy that my cousin has been helping me with it, I have been trying to get more speaking opportunities while still trying to find a job.
In many ways I am proud of myself for all of the awesome things I have been able to achieve, however, things right now just feel uncertain and scary. Sometimes I feel like I am the only person experiencing this struggle, but then I remember that a lot of my friends are in the same boat.
Today started off somewhat weird. I woke up feeling annoyed and angry. Angry with the whole process of applying to jobs and not getting a response. Angry with the fact that I have so many projects and ideas that don’t seem to be going in the direction I want them to. I don’t always like asking for help because I don’t like to burden people with my problems. So how do you tell people that you need help with certain projects?
I always like to be independent and I know what I am really good at, I also know what I’m not good at, so I don’t know how to feel confident enough to ask or tell people that I need their help.
Allowing Ourselves Permission To Feel
We are allowed to feel the random feelings. Sometimes those feelings are hard to put into words.
It can be hard for me on days like this for me to just let go of these emotions and feelings. I am sad that I can’t find a job, I am sad that I am not getting speaking opportunities and I don’t think that I need to just sweep it under the rug and move on from it. Sometimes when you know what you want, when you aren’t necessarily in the place that you want to be just yet it can be difficult to just forget about it.
So instead of pushing your feelings and emotions down, instead of just ignoring those feelings, allow yourself to feel them. You are allowed to cry if you need to, be upset or angry if you need to. Your feelings are completely valid and no one should ever make you think that they aren’t, especially if they don’t understand your situation.
I am sending you all love,
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About The Author
Gabby is a recent college graduate. She studied communications in digital media. When she isn’t busy with school, Gabby enjoys filming videos for her YouTube. She is very passionate about the performing arts, music, and acting. Gabby is also very passionate about advocacy and inclusion.
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- The header is a portrait of a sad beautiful young black woman looking lost in thought.
- A young man who is feeling depressed is sitting alone on the floor as a swirl of thoughts are projected from his head.
- The author’s photo is an evening outdoor glamour shot of Gabby standing with her hand on her hip in a black gown. Her long dark loosely curled tresses are flowing over her right shoulder and down her back.