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Bodacious Beauty, Acceptance & Self-Esteem

Bodacious Beauty

Bodacious Beauty, Acceptance & Self-Esteem

Loving yourself while working to become the best version of yourself for YOU is key!

A Recent Outing

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I love the humorous banter between my son and I. Here is a recent exchange between him and me on a shopping excursion for exercise apparel. 

Me: Do you know what body shape I am?

Son: (Laughing) Round?

Me: (Exasperated tone) No! I’m a triangle.

Son: (Still laughing) Don’t you mean you’re a cone shape? Like a traffic cone?

Me: **crickets** (Then I begin laughing hysterically)

An Authentic Hot Mess

I’m a hot mess and I know it! According to my medical chart, I’m obese, a fact of which I’ve lived in denial for a few years now.

Do you know how hard it is to take pictures from the right angle to hide present a more pleasing view? No longer a spring chicken it’s almost impossible to suck in an overabundance of a stomach that used to be a waistline.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed the willpower I used to have has given way to “oh, what the heck?” It’s a plan that works very effectively. I eat what I want when I want and it feels so GOOD. That is until I have to look presentable and find to my dismay my clothes don’t fit—surprise.

What I’ve learned is there’s only so much one can consume before it becomes a serious problem. The “head in the sand” approach is no longer working and I have to, I can’t believe I’m gonna say this, exercise and eat right.

My son thought it was hilarious that I was wearing skinny jeans that showed every bump and bulge. His thinking was skinny jeans are for skinny people. But my thinking is skinny jeans are for anyone as long as the fit is right. Obviously, with my increasing poundage mine have not been fitting right for some time, another case of denial. But, and this is huge, I’m going to use that gym membership I secured last year. And, I’m gonna make better choices when it comes to eating (at least I hope so). I just may resort to the “Oh what the heck?” philosophy.

Getting To The Point

The point I’m trying to make is while my image is important to me I try to balance it with humor. We only come this way once and I want to make the most of it by not being too hard on myself. The understanding I will never be pleasing to everyone is freeing and magnificently beneficial to my psyche.

Accepting yourself while working to become the best version of you for YOU is key! What was life-changing for me was realizing that being my best for myself was what mattered most.

Here’s a little perspective: there are over 7 billion people on earth, all are unique and all won’t like everyone.

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This shot is a pose of me with ‘black’ #WhiteCane, taken from the perspective of me looking down at my feet. My cane is to the left of my right foot. I’m wearing white skinny jeans paired with tan ballet flats with a little poofy floret type thing on top.

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Mirror selfie of me wearing a black polo shirt with an embroidered design of Abby, text, and braille.

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Summer’s Glowing Glistening Skin

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Summer’s Glowing Glistening Skin

Summer’s Glowing Glistening Skin sounds almost poetic doesn’t it? A more truthful title might look something like this: Summer’s Slick Slimy Sweaty Skin. Sadly, I don’t think the proposed title would garner any attention.

Steph’s Summer Oily Skin Remedy

Glistening skin is foreign to me. I sweat! And when I say “sweat” I mean buckets. So today I’m going to share my summer skincare routine.

Bold Blind Beauty believes true beauty resides within. Sometimes the way we appear on the outside may not necessarily reflect what’s on the inside. For example, when it’s hot, hazy, and humid I find it difficult to feel beautiful. Toss in a hot flash and it’s a wrap.

It’s hard to feel beautiful when you really feel like a slimy, sticky slug. The past few days have been so sticky and hot the thought of putting on makeup made me nauseous. So what do I do to combat my summer oily skin? A simple 3-step skin care regimen which includes a tinted moisturizer. When the temperature gauge hits 90’s+ any attempt at applying foundation flies quickly out the window.

Recently, I swapped out a couple of my regular skin care products with an oil reducing cleanser and a tinted moisturizer. So when it feels hot enough to fry an egg on my face I cleanse, exfoliate, then use the moisturizer with SPF. After this, I throw some eyeliner, mascara, brows, and lips then I’m good to go.

So when it’s hot as a blast furnace my skincare routine allows my outside to more accurately reflect my inside. Translation: I don’t feel like a walking/talking puddle of mush.

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The image has Paula’s Choice products lined up on mint colored fleece. In the background is a brown standing decorative hammered metal leaf tray.

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Serendipitous Sparkling Wrist Party

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Serendipitous Sparkling Wrist Party

“It came to me. My own. My love. My own. My precious.” ~Gollum, Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring

Sparkle A Girl’s Best Friend

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If you’ve ever seen Lord of the Rings you’re familiar with the character Gollum. “My precious,” I whispered in my best Gollum voice as I opened the box. Honestly, I just couldn’t help myself.

It was even prettier in person. My new Swarovski Touchstone Crystal Aqua Tri-Wrap Bracelet well exceeded my expectations. Three sparkling crystal-embellished leather bracelets beckoned me to put them on.

I was practically giddy as I pulled out my mint/teal colored fleece to use as a backdrop for photos. Each of the bracelets and even the box they came in were perfectly color-coordinated against the fleece. It was truly a serendipitous moment.

If I had any doubts about making this purchase they quickly evaporated as I took a few photos. The lightweight bracelets are 7-1/2 inches long, can be worn separately, or connected for a total length of 23 inches.

As soon as I saw my friend Melody of Sparkle With Melody show this jewelry I knew it would become mine. The reasons? The sparkle, color, versatility of the pieces, and did I mention sparkle?

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The Aquamarine, Light Turquoise, and Blue Zircon colored crystals on aqua suede bands are dazzling. The ability to wear them in a multitude of ways was very appealing to me.

If you’re looking for ways to punch up your summer wardrobe don’t take my word for it, here’s Melody:

Serendipitous Sparkling Wrist Party Featured Image Description: 

The featured image is the open box displaying the 3 bracelets sitting atop the fleece against a brick background.

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  • Image 1: A tri-collage (clockwise top left to right). Tri-wrap bracelet on my wrist, three stacked bracelets in front of its box, the featured image is on the bottom.
  • Image 2:  Closeup of the stacked bracelets in front of the Touchstone box.
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#TBT MyBlindStory: Blindness + Style = Confidence

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#TBT MyBlindStory: Blindness + Style = Confidence

Below is a revised version of an article I wrote for BlindNewWorld back in 2016. I really appreciate looking back as it gives me an opportunity to see how far we’ve come. You can check out the original article here: #MyBlindStory.

Losing Sight Opened My Eyes

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Before I lost my eyesight, I thought blindness meant total darkness. I was wrong. The range of sight loss/blindness is enormous and differs greatly from one person to the next.

Sight loss is a major life-altering event and it takes some time to adjust. Thankfully, acclimation and acceptance are not only possible but we can also learn to thrive. With few exceptions, the things we loved and excelled at are still integral to who we are at our core.

Transitioning from having sight to blindness is a process aided by Personal Adjustment to Blindness Training. This training eases our transition by teaching us new ways to do everyday tasks.

Since my love of personal style began when I was young, sustaining it through sight loss was a necessity. So learning new makeup and styling techniques helped me to increase my confidence despite blindness. 

Being able to keep up my trademark polished image which contributes largely to who I am as an individual was huge. Little did I know when I began blogging that I would connect with so many other fashionable blind women throughout the world. Life lesson—style is not limited to those with sight or who are able-bodied.

Broadening Inclusion

MyBlindStory Image 2: In this photo, I have my white cane and my outfit (capris, tank, sneakers & hoodie) are in shades of gray. 
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Inclusion and accessibility are major issues of concern in every area of blind individual’s lives. As a sub-group within the largest minority group of People With Disabilities, blindness is a small segment. Even so in the US alone, there are about 21 million adults living with sight loss.

I think the misguided belief that ‘blind people don’t care about their appearance’ is a prominent reason behind our lack of portrayal. Looking at the beauty and fashion industry it’s not surprising to see so little representation of blindness. While we are making inroads to inclusion we can do better. For this reason, a growing number of blind fashionable women are blogging and vlogging on a range of beauty related topics.

Bold Blind Beauty, believes “Real Beauty Transcends Barriers” and as such, we needed a stylish icon to represent blind women. Abigale, the fashion icon, is a chic image that evokes power, independence, and confidence. She is a woman on the move stepping forward with purpose as she navigates the world with her white cane.

Bridging The Gap

MyBlindStory Image 3 Here I'm posing with my white cane, blue jeans, black cold shoulder short sleeve tee and cream pumps.
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Expanding perceptions by connecting sighted and non-sighted communities are one of many ways we help to end fear and stigma associated with the word ‘blind.’ To extend our mission of “improving humanity by changing the way we perceive one another” we incorporated an online boutique. “Shopping With Abby” promotes powerful motivational slogans on all our merchandise (e.g. Relax! It’s Only a Cane). 

Once, an eye doctor told me “it would be a tragedy to learn how to use the white cane.” However, I believe the real tragedy is the shame many people feel when losing their eyesight. Empowering visual images that exude positivity will change hearts and minds towards blindness.

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A professional headshot of my asymmetrical hairstyle with burgundy highlights. The muted Coral Cutie lipstick topped with a peach colored gloss provides a nice contrast against the gray backdrop. I’m wearing a black dress and black tuxedo jacket trimmed in faux leather, silver statement necklace, and silver drop earrings.

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  • Image 1 – I’m standing with my white cane wearing white jeans and a gray cold shoulder sweater with tan lace-up sandals. I’m also holding a silver bomber jacket over my left shoulder.
  • Image 2 – In this photo, I have my white cane and my outfit (capris, tank, sneakers & hoodie) are in shades of gray.
  • Image 3 – Here I’m posing with my white cane, blue jeans, black cold shoulder short sleeve tee and cream pumps.