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Fabulous, Functional & Frugal Fashion Tip #21

Lose The Hypercriticism

I'm posing for the camera standing with my white cane prior to leaving for the evening.Like a little kid anxiously awaiting Christmas morning, I was so excited to launch personal preparations for an upcoming gathering with friends. I carefully selected an outfit including a couple of baubles, had a mani/pedi, updated my makeup, and dare I say this here? Eh, why not? Ordered a new wig.

Everything was lining up pretty nicely as my online orders began arriving last week. So what if the larger of the two same pair of jeans I ordered fit? At least I had the presence of mind to order two different sizes (just in case).

Then it happened. On Tuesday stuff started going haywire.

I’d received just about everything except for the wig but I thought ‘no worries’ I still have two days left to get it in time for my outing. This was the first of several annoyances.

On the way home from my spa day I examined my newly manicured fingernails and thought they didn’t look quite right. Throughout the balance of the day, night, and into the next morning disappointment mingled with thoughts of disgust (because of money forked out) flitted in and out of my mind on my nail situation. It got to the point I had to call the nail salon to request a redo for the following morning.

So, yesterday afternoon with nails redone and still no wig I begin getting ready for the evening. Even though I was bummed about the hair situation I was still excited to use my new makeup that is until I began applying my eyeliner. One eye was done, then I go to twist the liner pencil only to hear the sickening sound of a click indicating it was empty. But because I do denial extremely well there I am at the bathroom mirror continuing to twist the pencil with the expectation that mystically magically more product would appear-drat! Time to break out the emergency backup liner pencil even though it’s not the right color it would have to do.

While my final look wasn’t exactly as I imagined just as soon as my phone rang I was all grins. It was Margie and she was outside waiting for me. As soon as I get in her car thoughts of increased size, wigs, nails, and eyeliners flew out the window. We were on our way to meet ‘The Gang.’

‘The Gang’ includes extraordinary people with whom there are no pretenses. Nothing is ever off the table because we can laugh, cry, share and talk about contentious topics like politics, race, religion while respecting differing opinions. This is what it’s about—life is about people. It’s about a mutual appreciation for one another and loving unconditionally.

I began this post to demonstrate that appearance isn’t everything and when we place too much focus on those minute things (many which are barely noticed by others) we lose sight of what’s really meaningful.

Outfit Description:

  • White boyfriend jeans (I talked about these last week in Tip #20) | Macy’s
  • Heather grey, long-sleeved, ribbed lattice detail top | Macy’s
  • Nude lace-up block heeled sandals | DSW

Have a great weekend!!

 

 

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Shapewear The Bodyshifting Skivvies

Mentioning the Unmentionables

Nude SPANX Firm Control Power Play Open Bust Long Leg Body Shaper 2416. This is basically a body suit that covers the thighs, rear, stomach, waist leaing the bust area open.
SPANX Firm Control Power Play Open Bust Long Leg Body Shaper 2416 | Macy’s Image found on Polyvore

Back in December, I treated myself to a bra fitting and shapewear purchase. Though some might not consider a bra fitting a treat, for me it really is the little things.

So, it was off to the mall I went to get my bra fitting. When the customer service representative asked me if I wanted her to do the fitting or their certified bra fitter I said: “Why I never had a certified fitter to do my bra fitting.” “Yes thank you, I’d like to go that route.”

The last time I had a fitting was a few years back at an outlet mall, so I was eager to see if that fitter was in error. I disagreed with the measurements, felt the fitter was wrong and I had to be more endowed than the results I received.

I went into a changing room where the fitter explained how the fitting works and then she took the measurements.

I’d love to share the results with you but it’s so embarrassing I just can’t. But I can tell you that my measurements were no different from those from outlet mall fitting. Worse still, the numbers were the same that I had back in high school. I mean we’re talking training bra status here and I’m just disgusted.

Star Power by SPANX High Waist Mid-Thigh Shaper Shapewear - Macy's Image found on Polyvore
SPANX High Waist Mid-Thigh Shaper Shapewear | Macy’s Image found on Polyvore

Selection Time Commences

After being shown several different types of shapewear I chose a leotard thinking it would definitely suck in all the stray jiggles. On a side note, I think they’re called Spanx because when wearing them it feels like I’m  being spanked. They work well but there have been times when I’ve felt like I’d explode and I can’t tell you the relief it is to get out of them.

While I know of women who wear shapewear all the time, I do not, and quite honestly I couldn’t even if I’d want to because I find them uncomfortable. But for those special occasions, depending on what I’m wearing, I will wear them.

There are many styles of shapewear from which to choose all according to the need. For this jaunt, I chose to go with a body shaper for slimming and smoothing the thighs and rear, accentuating the waist and to lifting the bust.

Types of Shapewear

  • Body Shapers – body suit or slip that can extend to mid/lower-thigh to flatten, squeeze and support the body by redistributing the jiggle.
  • Bust Shapers – bodysuits or camisoles that shape, smooth, lift, and support.
  • Control Panties – slim, smooth and support the tummy and rear.
  • Thigh Slimmers – flatten tummy, waistline, hips, and thighs; some are high-waist
  • Waist Cinchers – slim waist and tummy.

As I was writing this post I remembered a body shaper from years back that had hook & eye closures and boning that was so comfortable. It was one of my favorite pieces.

“We are very lucky to be women, so even if we’re wearing trousers, I always wear them with some lace underwear or a very feminine bra – I like that.” ~Carine Roitfeld

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Style Word Association Part II

Boho, Glam & Casual Chic

Headshot of me and my "Edgy" hair.As promised in today’s post (a continuation from last week) I will talk about the 3 remaining styles (boho, glamorous and casual chic) referenced on Stitch Fix. To refresh your memory below are the 7 styles with one word that comes to my mind whenever I think of each style:

  1. Preppy – The Hamptons
  2. Romantic – Feminine
  3. Classic – Timeless
  4. Edgy – Risk-takers
  5. Bohemian Chic – Free Spirited
  6. Glamorous – Hollywood
  7. Casual Chic – Relaxed

I had so much fun with last week’s post that the very next day I was feeling “Edgy” and decided to dress the part. Now I’m not about spikes, studs or combat boots but when I turned 35 I did something so counter to my personality for me it was considered radical. Yup, I got a tattoo, leather biker jacket, and I was gonna sign up to learn how to ride a motorcycle but then I just settled for leasing my first new car (a five speed). No one could tell me I wasn’t cool – well no one except for my kids – and all because I had this thing for obeying the speed limit. Before I get into today’s three styles I wanted to take a quick moment to review my “Edgy” look:

  • St. John’s Bay White Keyhole V-Neck Tee (old) JC Penney’s
  • Style & Co. Dark Rinse Skinny Jeans Macy’s
  • Black Faux-Suede Jennifer Lopez Moto Jacket (similar) Kohl’s
  • Black Faux-Suede Rampage Kavi Wedge Mules DSW
  • Silver Accessories: Short pendant necklace on leather strap, medallion-like drop earrings, chain bracelets, 2 rings
  • Asymmetrical/tousled pixie cut wig (similar) wigs.com

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My hair was the edgiest part of my outfit and to test it out I posted a picture on Facebook and got all kinds of “I love your hair” comments. I like the way the hair falls across my left eye and has a tousled look on top (I feel radical whenever I wear it). Ok enough with edgy let’s move on to boho.

As a child in the 60s I remember the whole love, peace, flower children movement. While the bohemian style of today is not quite as hippie-like as in yesteryear whenever I hear boho it conjures up thoughts of a free-spirited, artsy, eclectic type individual. I have a few friends who fit into this category and they are the most creative, intelligent, easygoing, outgoing people with whom everyone wants to be around.

The boho style is carefree. Think layers and mix assorted textures like a tank or tee with a fringed cover-up or gauzy kimono. The look can be as simple as a breezy ethnic-inspired print dress, sandals and a hat. Prints range from paisley, florals, to fashionable and colorful patterns.

Boho outfit from Pinterest
Pinterest Boho

Pinterest has an endless supply of photos and information on anything under the sun. The boho look I selected from Pinterest features cutoff blue jean shorts, a peasant top complete with tassels, sandals, fringed handbag, colorful tribal print earrings, gold ring with turquoise stone and a brass cuff bracelet with turquoise, pink and brown beads.

Grace Kelly, Katherine Hepburn, Lena Horne, Lauren Bacall, Dorothy Dandridge, Lana Turner, Ava Gardner and Diahann Caroll are among the most glamorous women to grace the silver screen. Glamorous to me is Hollywood and I swear I can hear Madonna singing Vogue in the background.

Glamorous Pinterest
Pinterest Glamorous

Sticking with the summer theme, the glamorous look also has shorts and sandals but it’s the colors and color coordination that makes this outfit look classy. I could see myself adding a summer hat but that’s just me.

The cuffed shorts, tote handbag, sandals and oversized sunglasses are all in shades of tan. The red tank with tiny white polka dots appears to be lace across the upper back and the gold jewelry – bracelet and ring (with the exception of the hoop earrings) also picks up the red of the tank in the stone on the ring and portions of the bracelet. The look is casual elegance and not overdone.

Casual Chic is that effortless yet very well pulled together look. For example a color coordinated jogging suit with coordinating running or other cute shoes, nice handbag and perhaps a scarf and don’t forget the I don’t care attitude.

Casual Chic Pinterest
Pinterest Casual Chic

In the casual chic picture are white jeans paired with a tan dolman sleeved loose fitting top, pink printed scarf, pink watch, gold/tan sandals and gold/tan clutch.

The other day a friend of mine sent me an email stating how much she liked a bit I wrote on style in last week’s post and I thought I’d end this one with that thought. Here goes:

Style like art, is a form of self-expression and communication which encompasses the whole person. An extension of oneself, style begins on the inside with our personality, lifestyle, values, likes, dislikes, mannerisms and it permeates all areas of our life. ~Steph