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Invisible Yet Conspicuous

“Sometimes I feel I am invisible and the next second I am terrified of how much I stand out.” ~Kerry Kijewski kkherheadache.wordpress.com

Have you ever felt like Kerry? One minute you feel like you’re invisible yet at the same time you feel anxiety for being conspicuous?

Blindness, especially when you use mobility aids that make your disability apparent to the world can give you a feeling of bringing undue attention to yourself. It’s true when you are out in public with tools of independence you do stand out. You might feel a little apprehensive or even panic-stricken but here’s the thing by pushing through the fear you will find your strength.

People are going to look, they are going to presume to know what your story is by outward appearances, they may even go so far as to say rude things to you but until they know you, they don’t know you. Just keep being you, you are more than your disability and maybe you do stand out in the crowd but that’s okay because you made the decision to continue living your life by moving forward and that is outstanding. You are OUTSTANDING!!

Image: Kerry Kijewski is smiling and showing off her new Abigail (Abby) “Relax It’s Only A Cane” black tee.

#outstanding #exceptional #fabulous #impressive #rise

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Dangling On The CN Tower Edge

Photo Description of Kerry Dangling on the edge of the CN Tower is in the body of the post.

Dangling On The CN Tower Edge

“I get a little stuck on titles like meet the blind. I can’t help but feel that I am more than “the blind.” ~Kerry Kijewski, The Insightful Wanderer

CN Tower: Walking On A Ledge

Here’s a photo of my friend Kerry doing the EdgeWalk on the CN Tower in Toronto. The EdgeWalk is “the world’s highest full circle hands-free walk on a 5 ft (1.5 m) wide ledge. The ledge encircles the top of the Tower’s main pod, 356 m/1168 ft (116 stories) above the ground.”

I get that most people who don’t have disabilities don’t want to do anything to offend those of us who do. However, broadly speaking when we refer to a group or an individual by their disability it can be demeaning because it takes away our personhood. Likewise, there are people with disabilities who prefer identity first language because their disability is an important part of who they are as individuals. Both groups are right.

How about ‘respecting’ people as individuals?

CN Tower Image Description: 

Kerry is strapped into a harness and smiling. She is literally hanging backward over the edge with her feet braced on the outer rim of the walkway ledge.

#cntower #adventure #daring #fearless #brave

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A Lil’ Inspiration #14 Kerry

Life Moving Onward With Sight Loss

 

Quote and image description are in the blog post

“I WILL wander the world and I WILL write about it, offering insights about what I find as I go along. Travel is my passion, but I experience it not with sight. I aim to paint you a picture with my words. I love words.” ~Kerry Kijewski

Quoted text is white against a transparent teal background superimposed on a black & white image of a person at the Grand Canyon.

You can connect with Kerry on the following social media platforms:

 

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Don’t Look Back A Song

A Happy Start to Your Monday

In case you haven’t noticed I get a kick out of sharing the talents of people I admire. Lately it seems, and it really is a coincidence, the Women on the Move have literally been on the move with some amazing projects.

Today it’s my pleasure to share with you a song whose lyrics were written by Kerry Kijewski of the blog, Her Headache and composed/produced by her brother Brian Kijewski. This song will blow your socks off. Enjoy!

 

DON’T LOOK BACK

Performed by: Brian Kijewski (composer/producer), guitar, and bass, musical arrangement; Kerry Kijewski wrote lyrics; Andrew McIntyre on drums; Imogen Wasse on vocals; mastering done by Carl Peter Matthes

There are days I can’t let you go. Something lost to be found.
Wandering through fog, a forest for the trees.

I’m searching. Bright, shocking are the flashes. Something out there, this I know.

Back back back I see. Things still reminding me. At the back of my mind’s eye, there I spy.

There are days, I know how you look. Reach all around, a hand to help me up.
In that empty void, just out of reach, giving in, all so vast I don’t know why.

Back back back I see. Things still reminding me. At the back of my mind’s eye, there I spy.

Don’t look back. Don’t look back.
Don’t look back. Don’t look back.
Don’t look back. No don’t look back.
Don’t look back.

Back back back I see. Things still reminding me. At the back of my mind’s eye, there I spy.

MMM. MMM.
Ahhh.

On those days, I remember, Your details refuse to come back. All the while, I’m remembering.

Don’t look back. No don’t look back.
Don’t look back. No don’t look back.
Don’t look back. No, don’t look back. Don’t look back.

Back back back I see. Things still reminding me. At the back of my mind’s eye, there I spy.

(Fade out and repeat)
Don’t look back. Don’t look back.
Don’t look back. Don’t look back.
Don’t look back. Don’t look back.