One of the loneliest places to be during the holidays is in a roomful of people when you’re not feeling the gaiety. It’s okay to acknowledge how you feel and to seek guilt-free solitude. It’s also okay to reach out for help. You are not alone.
There are many people who struggle with feelings of loneliness during the holidays. The challenges of daily life are real even in the midst of the most joyous time of the year. If you’ve experienced a recent loss of a loved one, job or are having serious health-related problems these things can impact how you feel. Try to remember this is one moment in time and though difficult it may be, you will pull through.
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Who doesn’t like to feel and look glamorous? As we’ve touched on many times here at Bold Blind Beauty, even us blind ladies care about our appearance and for us, the holidays are no exception. Right now is the perfect opportunity to channel your inner diva and you can do it in a subtle yet stunning way with a skirt and sweater combo.
There is so much we can do to mix colors, textures, and pieces to create a sophisticated look guaranteed to make you feel like a million bucks. For today’s look, I took a luxurious holiday red velvety soft sweater and paired it with a body-hugging black midi skirt adorned with large buttons down the left side.
If metallic apparel isn’t your thing you can get your sparkle on with a pair of silver pointy toe pumps and finish off with a silver faux fur jacket. A red mini tote bag, black onyx stud earrings, oversized shades and faux leather driving gloves round out this outfit. All that’s needed now is a red lip, festive manicure and you’re good to go.
Holiday gatherings can be a little unsettling when you aren’t aware of your surroundings and when you use a white cane it can get a tad dicey navigating a room full of people while balancing food, drinks, and handbag. I opt for a bag with a shoulder strap so I can wear it cross-body to free up a hand in addition to going sighted guide especially in dense group settings.
While you may not be able to see the forest for the trees, you can be a vision in an ensemble with multiple textures. In my second installment on engaging the senses through holiday fashion I’ve taken three knit separates added faux fur, velvet, reptile texture, and gemstones to create an overall glamorous vibe.
When we view the world through the narrow lens of the majority we can miss out on brilliant nuances. The beauty in being able to see can hinder our ability to fully engage with our environment.
Being born without or losing a sense like sight exposes us to a whole new world of sensory experience. The environment which the majority of us can see with our eyes is viewed very differently from a person who is blind or visually impaired.
Take today’s outfit for example, looking at it with physical sight we can take in the bold black and white houndstooth pattern. The sparkle of the gemstones would catch our eye but how about the shape, cut, edges, and smooth facets on the crystals?
From the perspective of blindness or visual impairment imagine how delightful the feeling is of running the fingertips through the fur on the vest or how this texture differs in comparison with the knit top. Taking in the smooth, bumpy surface on the handbag provides us with an added sensory experience by hearing the jingle of the adjustable shoulder chain or the magnetic closure.
Then we have the soft, luxurious feeling of velvet ankle boots against the warm and cozy opaque tights. Yes, there is no denying that seeing with our physical eyes is awesome but even when we cannot see we can still, and in some cases even more so appreciate the beauty surrounding us. The difference is in our perception.
If I said I’m here to tell you about three unbeatable moves for the entire holiday season, what would your reaction be?
Maybe your heart does a little happy dance because you love the holidays in any way, shape or form. Maybe you feel almost nothing, and you wonder if it’s worth your time to keep reading. After all, retailers have been pushing “The most wonderful time of the year” since before Halloween.
Or maybe you passionately hate it all. Maybe you’re dealing with a job loss, a break-up, a life-changing diagnosis, or the death of someone you love.
I’d like to suggest that whatever your state of mind, you’ll love these three moves. In fact, I find them unbeatable all year-long.
First, let’s talk about the equipment you’ll need. You might want to wear comfortable walking shoes, but slippers, party shoes, or bare feet will also do nicely. You can sit, stand, or lie down.
The most important skill you will need for each of these moves is to reach! Here they are:
While this sounds like an anatomically impossible stretch to do with your body, it’s vital to do with your mind. Reach inside yourself. Are you incredibly sad, but are doing your best to put on a brave face? Or maybe you are keeping up the facade of acting coolly disinterested or hassled by the entire scene when you can barely contain your excitement and enthusiasm? You may not feel like you can let your feelings show, and even though it would be ideal if you could, you owe it to yourself to be honest inside your own head.
Are you depleted? Reach out. Chances are, there are family and friends who’d love to lend a listening ear. Do you have energy and excitement to spare? Reach out. It’s important to be flexible and patient with yourself. Some days, some moments, you may be giving. Others, you may be receiving. Just do your best to keep reaching out and connecting meaningfully with others, both for their sake and yours.
Have you ever listened to a workout where the instructor abandons particular steps and says something like, “Just move! Just do what feels best to you?” This third move is one that leaves room for lots of interpretation. For some, reaching up means taking time to connect with God and think about the significance of the season. For others, it might mean reaching higher — putting on that last burst of speed to complete goals first begun in January. It might mean reaching higher within yourself, to emerge victorious from struggles that seem impossible.
Whatever you do this holiday season, Keep On Reaching In, Reaching Out, Reaching Up!