“Sometimes I feel I am invisible and the next second I am terrified of how much I stand out.” ~Kerry Kijewski kkherheadache.wordpress.com
Have you ever felt like Kerry? One minute you feel like you’re invisible yet at the same time you feel anxiety for being conspicuous?
Blindness, especially when you use mobility aids that make your disability apparent to the world can give you a feeling of bringing undue attention to yourself. It’s true when you are out in public with tools of independence you do stand out. You might feel a little apprehensive or even panic-stricken but here’s the thing by pushing through the fear you will find your strength.
People are going to look, they are going to presume to know what your story is by outward appearances, they may even go so far as to say rude things to you but until they know you, they don’t know you. Just keep being you, you are more than your disability and maybe you do stand out in the crowd but that’s okay because you made the decision to continue living your life by moving forward and that is outstanding. You are OUTSTANDING!!
Image: Kerry Kijewski is smiling and showing off her new Abigail (Abby) “Relax It’s Only A Cane” black tee.
“I WILL wander the world and I WILL write about it, offering insights about what I find as I go along. Travel is my passion, but I experience it not with sight. I aim to paint you a picture with my words. I love words.” ~Kerry Kijewski
Quoted text is white against a transparent teal background superimposed on a black & white image of a person at the Grand Canyon.
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I’ve said it before and as long as I continue to blog I will say it time and time again, I am so blessed to meet and write about some of the most phenomenal women. A couple of weeks before I moved I met Kerry Kijewski, a young woman who contacted me by email through Bold Blind Beauty. After we exchanged a few emails we set up a meeting via Skype to chat and we had such a great conversation.
Kerry, like other women that I’ve featured on Fierce Fridays was prompted to contact me after coming across my blog to give her feedback on the subject matter. We started out talking about make-up, fashion, beauty and how blind and vision impaired people are viewed as either uncaring or unconcerned about these topics and we both came to the same conclusion that nothing could be further from the truth.
My blog is where I hope to show the world what I have to offer and to do my part in hopes of making even the smallest difference. ~Kerry
Kerry went on to say just how good she feels when she buys a new outfit, it’s the same feeling shared by all women. You know the feeling of that initial rush of putting on new clothing especially depending on the occasion for which you are buying the apparel. For example a party, wedding, job interview, a date, vacation, the list goes on. Kerry affirmed that she is most definitely interested in fashion, trends and wanting to look her best.
On makeup Kerry told me that she tried wearing makeup when she was younger but since that time hasn’t really wanted to give it a go but since Bold Blind Beauty is here who knows? Just maybe she’ll give it another try. One of the things Kerry did share with me on dress is that she sometimes will get insight from her sister (who loves fashion) and can give Kerry helpful tips and advice.
As I write today’s post it just occurred to me that during our hour-long Skype conversation I neglected to ask Kerry the cause of her blindness and I now know why – it was irrelevant. It was also because though these Fierce Friday posts highlight extremely competent women, who happen to be blind or vision impaired, that isn’t the only reason. Kerry who is an aspiring writer is an extremely intelligent, caring, gifted and interesting person.
I want to bring attention to the issues that are most important to me: equal rights, organ donation, mental health awareness. ~Kerry
The one thing I do know as it relates to Kerry’s vision is that she was born blind and three years later so was her brother. Ironically the two siblings also have a shared experience of kidney transplants and in view of this they have a special bond between them that has assisted in their getting through the rough times. I mentioned that Kerry has a great love of writing and her brother found his gift in music.
When you have a chance I encourage you to visit her blog called Her Headache. On it you will find she writes about life, love, loss, family and all sorts of fascinating subjects including yesterday’s stirring tribute to Maya Angelou.
The things I’ve gone through and the experiences I’ve had have brought me to this place and I will never give up. ~Kerry
A love of all things literary, Kerry has found that books allow her to dream and provide an escape from reality. On her blog she has found a freedom like never before to come out of the comfort of her cocoon and to blossom into a beautiful butterfly charged with exploring this big world. Though she has expressed that she feels somewhat small in an out of control world, blogging has provided a platform for her to speak her mind.
Kerry, I applaud you and thank you for allowing me the opportunity to share such a small piece of your life on my blog. You are a positive role model for all young women.
“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.” ~Mary Kay Ash