Learning To Be Present Through The Loss Of Sight

“I never thought I could “go through that” until going through “that” was the best alternative.”

Being a pragmatic person who has to have loads of information, then weigh the pros and cons, when faced with a situation where the path forward appears murky I try to find another path. When my eyesight began dwindling away and pathways to vision restoration closed down I was stopped in my tracks.

Residing in a state of denial during the span of time from when I was declared legally blind up until I needed to begin using the white cane was my new reality. The fear wasn’t so much the blindness rather it was the not knowing what was ahead.

Since the decline of my eyesight was so severe it was excruciating not being able to see further than my new limitation. The white cane became not only my lifeline but the tool that would be my eyes so that I could relax and travel safely.

I feel so vulnerable when I take my dog, Mollie, outside because it’s not practical to use my white cane. Without the cane, my steps are a little unsure and I have to trust Mollie to warn me if an animal or person invades our space.

It occurred to me that it’s within this range of either Mollie or my white cane that I’m safe. No, I can’t determine what’s beyond the range but that’s okay because all I have to concern myself with is where I’m at now.

On Mother’s Day, I felt that same sense of safety as me and several family members had dinner with my mother at the nursing home. We laughed and had such a great time enjoying each other’s company I didn’t even look at my phone except to take a picture of my grandson.

I know that time is winding down not just for my mother but all of us. More and more each day I am given I enjoy my loved ones and can’t imagine what life would be like without them.

Life is way too short to waste it focusing on things we have no control over. Live life now and be in the moment.

Low Key Ensemble

What I wore: Ann Taylor black tee (old), black leggings, black crisscross heels | DSW, gray long hooded vest, and of course my white cane. I wore a long silver toned tassel necklace, cuff bracelet, and earrings.

Fabulous, Functional & Frugal Fashion Tip #7

Working With Less Can Make A Statement

photogrid_1481204120499I am blind, I use a white cane, and I wear heels. Just because I don’t fit into some people’s boxes of conformity does not make me any less blind and that’s okay. While I liked seeing well, swapping physical sight for deeper insight was worth the trade.

In a recent interview concerning people with disabilities, I was asked why I chose to go with “blind” as a personal descriptor as opposed to a term like sight impaired. As a legally blind individual I intentionally refer to myself as “blind” because I wanted to change the stigma associated with the word. Little did I know I would meet so many other people who feel the same as I do and we are all working towards creating a more inclusive world. Okay, that’s it for today’s speech.

Downsizing doesn’t have to be hard, it simply requires a little planning. For example whittling down my shoe collection is sometimes just a matter of exchange.

In the image are two pairs of black stilettos which I gave away in exchange for one new pair of chunkier heels. While I liked the other pairs, my feet weren’t happy. So the solution was to go with a thicker heel that provides more support and comfort without sacrificing style.

Paring down is an evolving process that not only clears space (I need my feng shui), but as an individual who cannot see very well, I have an easier time choosing what to wear with less to choose from. The additional bonus, was being able to use a DSW reward for $10 off and free shipping.

Wouldn’t it be grand if we could just as easily swap our misconceptions for enlightenment? Just because things don’t “appear” as we think they should doesn’t mean anything. We should approach those things we don’t comprehend with an open mind before forming an opinion. When we seek to understand that’s when we can make informed decisions and become more accepting.