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Sportin’ Spanx & A Little Black Dress On Election Day?

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Sportin’ Spanx & A Little Black Dress On Election Day?

Yesterday: Fixed hair and makeup. Saw no one. Today: Looked like Jack Nicholson from The Shining. Saw all the people I know. ALL. OF. THEM!ūüôĄūü§£

~Unknown
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#1 Selfie

Can anyone else relate to the above quote? It’s amazing what a few decades can do to change your perspective. I used to go NOWHERE without my face on. Well, that’s not totally true. One time I went to my mom’s when I wasn’t feeling well. She took one look at me and said: “you should never leave home without your makeup on.” I was not amused.

To give you a little perspective on this mother/daughter exchange my mother ALWAYS puts on her face. Even now at 80 years of age, disabled, and a wheelchair user she still puts on her makeup. It’s the darndest thing that I’ll never understand because honestly, I just don’t have the strength. 

My appearance on most days makes Jack Nicholson’s The Shining character look like the sexiest man on the planet in comparison. And you know what? I really don’t give a gosh darn because my dog still loves me as I am. 

When The Spanx Fit…

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#2 Candid Shot

However, every great now and again I feel like I want to look fabulous. Election Day was such a day for me. I weighed myself, lost another pound, and was able to put on my Spanx!!!

Wearing Spanx might not seem like a big deal but for me, this was huge because I’ve gained weight. Case in point, earlier in the year, I wasn’t even able to get this garment past my knees.

So anyway, the magic of Spanx allowed me to squeeze my behind in my LBD (little black dress). This particular LBD is a sleeveless sheath dress that I haven’t worn in years. If that weren’t enough, I was able to get into my black tights. Uh, oh, I was on a roll!

Next, I donned my olive booties, with a beige lightweight jacket and topped it off with a fringed olive scarf. A quick word on the scarf, it’s older than dirt and one of my favorite pieces. The design on it is sort of a paisley pattern with sequins and intricate threading interspersed throughout. 

I threw on my pixie cut wig, put on my face, earrings, a bracelet and was ready to hit the polls. 

A Chauffeur, Polls & “I Voted”

My son and I got to the polls and wow I’ve never seen a line like the one on Tuesday. Everyone we encountered was so nice and accommodating to a lil‘ ole blind lady with her fancy white cane.

After I voted I asked the woman who assisted me if she had an “I voted” sticker. I was devastated when she said, “unfortunately we don’t have any here.” All I could think was, I did my civic duty and now I’m leaving here emptyhanded. Seriously?? Thankfully, she went on to say, “but I heard someone say the library down the road has them.” 

So I asked my son aka chauffeur, to take me to the library. Inside I go to the librarian and told her the word on the street is they have “I voted” stickers. She smiled and said, “we have buttons you can make.” Well, I was delighted, that is until my college graduate son couldn’t follow the picture directions ūüė¨ ugh millennials! Thank heavens a sweet older woman helped save the day. After a little chaos ensued (my son still had issues with the button maker) I finally had my shiny new button.

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My son took this photo of me outside my condo standing with my green and yellow “white cane.” Actually, the cane is white except for the green handle and the last segment nearest the rolling ball which is yellow. There are a ton of bright yellow/orange Autumn leaves all around me. I’m wearing the black dress, beige lightweight coat, olive paisley print oblong scarf around my neck and my “I Voted” button pinned to the scarf.

  1. A selfie I took outside on my balcony is a close up on my patriotic stars & stripes button. 
  2. Another standing pose that’s actually a candid shot. It was very windy when we were taking the pictures and I was trying to get my scarf to play nice.
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Coordinating Olive Pieces For A Smashing Fall Look

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Coordinating Olive Pieces For A Smashing Fall Look

“When I try an outfit on and it doesn’t make me look good, I just throw it on the floor. Like, No, you don’t deserve to be hung up, sit there and think about what you’ve done.”ūü§£

~Unknown
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#1 – Stephanae sitting on a wall

Don’t you just love it when everything falls perfectly into place? It’s like the planets have aligned and all the signs confirm you’ve made the right choice. This recently happened to me as I began transitioning my summer wardrobe to fall. 

Since I’m still adhering to my strict policy of limiting my clothing budget. Oh, who am I kidding here? The truth is when one has limited funds sometimes our choices must reflect our reality. Even though my cash flow may not be ideal, I decided a while back to downsize to make life easier. This made sense both from a financial and lifestyle standpoint. Let’s face it, having fewer things to choose from is so much easier on my defunct eyes.  

So it was with finances and lifestyle in mind that I’ve only acquired a few new items of clothing for fall. What was really fabulous about these purchases is how they fit in nicely with my existing wardrobe. 

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#2 – Stephanae is standing

What Did I Score?

Back in September I went on a little shopping adventure with a friend of mine and found some amazing deals. My little heart was furiously pounding as I shoved no less than 10 items (give or take) into my cart.

I was so excited at the prospect of new clothes my mind was racing with combination possibilities. However, once I got in the changing room only one, yes, you heard right, only. one. thing. fit! I was devastated. The saving grace here was:

  • Number 1 – Thanks to my limited eyesight, I couldn’t really see my extra poundage in the mirror. Perhaps this too was a sign that I need to lose weight?
  • Number 2 – I saved myself some money. See how the planets aligned?

In the end I walked away with an olive flyaway cardigan. 

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#3

Then a few weeks ago one of my favorite shoe stores was having a $20 off purchase. And of course, being the self-respecting shoe lover I was honor-bound to buy these fabulous Fergalicious Wanderer Booties. Let me just stop here for one moment and tell you that these booties are so darn comfortable. This is not a plug for DSW as I am not being compensated for this post.

Putting It Together

As I mentioned earlier in this post transitioning the new pieces into my existing wardrobe was a piece of cake. I already owned an olive parka and coat. All I had to do was pull together a top and bottoms to make a complete outfit. The headwrap was an additional piece that requires a post of its own. The pieces:

  • Black leggings
  • A black top
  • An olive flyaway cardigan that hits around the hips.
  • Olive booties with 3-1/2 inch stacked block heel. These western style boots have an almond toe and tactile intricately woven detailing. 
  • An olive double-breasted coat with a wide collar and big cream colored buttons. 
  • Black vintage flower twist pleated headwrap accented with gold threads. The flower is on the left.

A pair of shades and my gold “white cane” finished off my look. 

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I’m standing in front of a wooden wall (railroad ties) surrounding an oak tree holding my cane in my right hand. In this photo, I’ve taken off my coat to show the cardigan and I’m holding my sunglasses in my left hand. 

Additional Images:

  1. In this photo, I’m sitting on the wall in my coat with my right hand on my right knee. My head is angled like I’m looking at something in the distance and I have my cane in my left hand. 
  2. Another photo of me standing with my cane in my left hand and right hand is on my hip.
  3. This last photo is another one where I’m standing wearing the coat. I’m trying to look all cool like with my left hand on my sunnies like I’m trying to see something interesting. 
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Still Not Fitting In, But It’s Okay

Blending In like a Chameleon

Outfit #1 - Florescent coral fleece sweatshirt, black coated jeans, black lace & faux leather lace-up booties with a kitten heel and a multi-colored fringed scarf (in shades of burgundy, brown & white) tied like a loose neck-tie. Accessories are lacy diamond shaped dangling earrings, silver bracelet and rings.
Outfit #1 – fluorescent coral fleece sweatshirt, black-coated jeans, black lace & faux leather lace-up booties

Back when I was a youngster¬†through my high school years, there were many days I wished I could just disappear. I was a prime target for bullying in school because I was so quiet, shy, and afraid, and after school¬†homelife wasn’t much¬†better.

Thankfully time, distance, and many therapy sessions later have muted most of my childhood memories. There are however triggers from time to time that take me back to a specific situation.

If you’ve been following me for a while you know the primary focus of this blog revolves around¬†style as it relates to blindness. However as I’ve said many times we are so much more than how we appear which is why I weave¬†stories of my life into¬†my outfit posts. Today’s memory¬†partially revolves around the brightly colored fleece sweatshirts¬†in the attached photos (more on this in a minute).

Outfit #2 - This outfit is exactly the same as outfit #1 except I'm wearing a bright peach colored fleece sweatshirt.
Outfit #2 – This outfit is exactly the same as outfit #1 except I’m wearing a bright peach colored fleece sweatshirt.

For years I thought I was¬†different because¬†I grew¬†up in a dysfunctional environment however¬†I’ve come to understand¬†my main issue was unworthiness. In adulthood¬†my¬†codependency evolved into¬†a strong desire to strive for perfection and to always be in control.

While my¬†need for control¬†had its own set of issues, when it came to someone I cared about being threatened my lioness instincts kicked-in. One of my bullies found this out firsthand when he decided he was going to pick on¬†my little brother, to this day I still have the scar to prove it, I chased the creep down, unloaded on him and didn’t realize¬†until afterwards that I skinned my knee.

Through protecting my younger brother my inner crazy was unleashed. So it only made sense when one of my other bullies thought she could still push me around, I channeled the crazy and from that day on the bullying ceased.

If I thought discovering I had a lioness instinct was huge¬†imagine my surprise when, in my last year of high school, I finally found a way to become accepted. Prior to 11th grade if I wasn’t in school or studying, I was sleeping. Sleep was my way of escape so it really wasn’t a revelation that being introduced to alcohol would bring out a Steph I didn’t know existed.

Outfit #3 - This outfit consists of the same jeans & booties but I'm wearing a gray & white striped tee and a black boyfriend blazer cuffed (cuffs are black & white plaid). Accessories are a long pendant fringe necklace, silver and gray beaded stretch bracelet and the same earrings as in outfits 1 & 2.
Outfit #3 – Gray & white striped tee and a black boyfriend blazer cuffed (cuffs are black & white plaid).

For the first time in my life I was outgoing and fun to be around. Finally, I could become the person I always wanted to be because alcohol relaxed my inner turmoil. I now had a social life and was one of the kool kids.

When I began having children it was time to get serious and I remained true to my childhood vow that life would be different for them. I was unafraid to show them affection and would hug, kiss, and tell them at every opportunity that I loved them. I needed them to know they were valued, wanted, and more importantly loved. I would have fought to the death for them however while I loved them like crazy, I was strict because of that whole codependency/perfectionism thing.

Looking back now I can see how I’ve become so intense¬†and how losing my eyesight would push¬†me over the edge. In order to move onward after a¬†life-altering situation like sight loss at some point you have to succumb to the circumstances.

So what does all of this have to do with fitting in? The answer in three words: The. White. Cane. When I first began using my white cane I felt like it was a beacon. I stood out and at times felt uncomfortable but I had to keep pushing through because as I saw it I had two choices: give up or give in. I chose to give in because giving in meant that I was going to accept my situation and learn to work within the parameters set before me.

In today’s photos I decided since I stand out with the white cane I might as well go all the way and wear bright, attention-getting tops along with my little granny boots and coated jeans. These fleece sweatshirts¬†are two of three (third on is displayed in Mix and Re-Mix)¬†that¬†I got for $6.00 each at Kohl’s. Following and in Alt-text are descriptions on the photos.

  • Outfit #1 – fluorescent coral fleece sweatshirt, black-coated jeans, black lace & faux leather lace-up booties with a kitten heel and a multi-colored fringed scarf (in shades of burgundy, brown & white) tied like a loose neck-tie. Accessories are lacy diamond-shaped dangling earrings, silver bracelet and rings.
  • Outfit #2 – This outfit is exactly the same as outfit #1 except I’m wearing a bright peach colored fleece sweatshirt.
  • Outfit #3 – This outfit consists of the same jeans & booties but I’m wearing a gray & white striped tee and a black boyfriend blazer cuffed (cuffs are black & white plaid). Accessories are a long pendant fringe necklace, silver and gray beaded stretch bracelet and the same earrings as in outfits 1 & 2.

Have a great weekend!!