Making The Most Out Of What You Have Is So Satisfying

You don’t know what you don’t know


The theme of not missing something you never knew existed has been one of the guiding forces in my life. I typically relate this theme back to when I was a youngster with poor eyesight. It wasn’t until my first refraction eye exam, when the eye chart was brought into sharp focus, that I realized my vision was wonky due to high myopia also known as extreme nearsightedness.

“It wasn’t until my first refraction eye exam…” On the surface this sentence might seem inconsequential but when I go back to life before that examination, my poor eyesight was normal and I was blissfully unaware of the fact I couldn’t see well. Knowledge changes everything.

Being here to witness the advancing evolution of technology like television, cable, microwaves, phones, game consoles, computers, internet, and vehicles is amazing. Even the way we communicate with one another, the amount of, and how we receive information, is fascinating. But a part of me can’t help but wonder if instant gratification and having so many choices can be detrimental to our humanity as our attention is being pulled in so many directions.


“The most important things in life aren’t things.”

Making the decision to not let the possession or lack of something control me has been one of my life’s most liberating experiences. The process begins with understanding who you are and what’s valuable to you.

For me, the need for order is critical. So when I examined my current lifestyle I saw many opportunities to pare down. For example, I no longer require china so I’m giving it away to a friend. No china means no need for a china cabinet. Other areas where I scaled back:

  • No longer buying anything without giving something away or tossing
  • Unsubscribed from email lists
  • Turned off electronic notifications i.e. FB, Twitter, Instagram & email
  • Limited social media and smartphone applications
  • Got rid of all CDs and DVDs
  • Cancelled solicitation requests via mail
  • Deleted seldom used online tools
  • Instead of gifts I’ve requested donations to my favorite charity
  • Deleted unused programs on my computer

In addition to the above—with the exception of household items like; food, paper towels, toilet paper, and soap—I try not to keep multiples. I’ve narrowed down clothing, shoes, handbags, coats, and accessories. Using 100 percent of what I own and keeping only those things I enjoy, has improved my mood by reducing stress, created more open space in my condo, not to mention my mind, and is allowing me to focus on where I am needed most.


Gone are the days where I hang onto something to wear just because. The necklace in today’s pictures is an example of one I’ve had for a few years but I never wore. The question I had to ask myself was ‘why am I keeping this if I’m not going to use it?’ This is why I like the ‘something comes in, something goes out’ philosophy because it allows me to see more clearly what I truly need to replace and with reduced inventory selections are much easier.

I still have to get to the place where I do not need storage for overflow but I like where I’m headed. Working on a cable solution is one of my next projects. It’s silly to have a bazillion channels when I don’t watch TV. Getting rid of Verizon as my cell phone provider last year was one of the best decisions I made. My bill is about 1/3 of what I used to pay and I’m receiving the same service. So lookout cable, I’m coming for you!

Outfit Description:

  • Blue jeans
  • Black top
  • Black faux suede mule wedge shoes
  • White faux leather moto jacket
  • Silver plated crystal statement necklace

Published by Stephanae

👩🏾‍🦯 | INTJ | HSP | Collector of knowledge | Alpaca Fanatic “If I stop to kick every barking dog, I am not going to get where I'm going.” ~Jackie Joyner-Kersee Hi, I'm Steph! I'm a highly sensitive proud introvert and a recovering people-pleaser. These traits or quirks used to bother me because I always felt out of place until I began a recent process of self-acceptance. While I'm still a work in progress, I view my quirks as my superpowers and am grateful that they contribute to who I am today.

30 thoughts on “Making The Most Out Of What You Have Is So Satisfying

  1. It really is Jackie! I couldn’t wait to get started and in so doing was able to distinguish between wants and needs. I’ve still have a lot to do but there’s comfort in knowing an end is in sight. Thank you for commenting. 💖

  2. Thanks Kathy. Emails made me want to scream. Now I just use WordPress reader and for favorite blogs I save these in a folder on my browser. It’s made life so much easier.

  3. Hi Lynne, your hubby sounds like two of my three boys. My oldest at 30 is such a neat freak I think he could be a little more intense than I am in this area with the exception of his gaming devices. I can’t see him ever giving those up.

    Thank you for the compliment and you have a great week as well! 💖

  4. Hi Steph, I tend to be very good in this department! My hubby on the other hand is rather a disaster, and I have to get him on board !
    You always look amazing and stylish Steph. Have a beautiful week <3

  5. I had a real leather black jacket my ex-husband gave me and it was heavy. I liked it but wouldn’t have bought it for myself because it was costly.

  6. Stephanie is always out in style. You look so beautiful. Thanks for sharing all that. We should keep what we need and give out those we don’t.

  7. I’ll keep that in mind. I bought a stunning short turquoise leather jacket at a consignment shop but it feels heavy to wear. I like lighter feeling clothes.

  8. I’ll keep that in mind when I get to shopping. I have a gorgeous short leather bright turquoise jacket I found at a consignment shop and bought it for its lovely tucked leather detail…only $35! But it feels so heavy and I don’t enjoy heavy clothes.

  9. Hi Katelon, I love this jacket and think I’ll do a separate post on it with more closeups on the details. I was just telling a friend yesterday that most faux leather these days is so much better than years past. I bought this one online two years ago from Nordstrom rack. It’s such a nice looking piece, comfy and I feel so good when I wear it. 😊

  10. Beautiful outfit. How do you like your faux leather jacket? I’ve seen them in stores but didn’t know if it would feel “fake” to me and I’d end up not liking it. I like the looks of them though. I even saw a bright turquoise one 🙂

  11. Steph, I like your philosophy! I totally understand the liberating experience from getting rid of stuff. After Gary and I downsized 95%, we are free. Good luck, I am very excited for you. 🙂

  12. Oh my goodness yes!! I actually forgot this because it’s something I’ve always done. Granted when I was among the ranks of the employed it seemed easier just to buy new stuff but now I look back and ugh-I was so wasteful. Just because we can do something doesn’t mean we have to. Also things that do double duty-forgot to mention that.🙄

  13. YES! And I add this one–repurpose as much as possible. That includes my clothing! I love taking something used or cast off and giving it new life….hmmm, I think Someone else also had that idea!

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