Living Life Boldly & Transforming Perceptions

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Editor’s Note

Last year was tough. My best friend was diagnosed with cancer, another very good friend died unexpectedly, and I had to deal with some significantly unresolved fears. Yet among these struggles, there were always glimmers of light; standing up for my friend, continuing the work my other friend believed in so deeply, and coming to terms with myself.

One of the best gifts I received last year was a connection with Tony Koros at Grotto Network and the opportunity to share part of my story. Here is the video he created along with the transcript (below). Thank you, Tony, for spending my birthday with me and working with me to film this footage. And thank you Grotto Network for making this possible!💛

“When we are out here living our lives, we are bold. We are embracing our blindness. We are blind and we’re beautiful.”

Blind Blogger Transforms Perceptions of Beauty

Video Transcript

Grotto Network

Meet Stephanae McCoy: Blind Beauty Blogger

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Stephanae: Beauty is seldom associated with blindness. Beauty is seldom associated with disabilities, or people with disabilities. I wanted to change that.

I was looking in the mirror and I took out my right contact lens. I’m looking up in the mirror and all of a sudden, because I still had my left contact lens in, my face was gone. There was just no face. I’m like, “Whoa.” My whole feeling about the process of going blind was: If I’m going to lose my sight, I’m going to do it my way.

We can do anything that we want to do, provided we’re given the tools to do it or we learn a different way of doing it.

Stephanae created a blog called “Bold Blind Beauty.” The blog celebrates blind and visually impaired people, and shares Stephanae’s tips on makeup, style, and beauty.

(Applying makeup in a mirror)

Most of the time I’m not even in a mirror when I’m doing this, but old habits die hard. Even when you can’t see, when you can no longer see, you still want to use a mirror sometimes. At least I do.

For me, becoming embarrassed by other people standing around watching me is huge. When I’m in an unfamiliar area, sometimes, even though I’ve been using a cane now for years and I feel like I’ve built up my confidence and I feel like I’ve got this thing down, I sometimes get so overwhelmingly afraid that I panic.

We need to change the way we look at people with disabilities. The way we’re doing it now, we’re looking at the tools that they use to become independent, but we’re seeing them as a crutch, as opposed to a tool of independence.

I created Bold Blind Beauty so that we could change the perception of how we view people, period. I just would like to see us be a more inclusive world for everyone and accept people as we really are, stripping away the outside and getting to the heart of who we are as people.

But when we are out there and we are living our lives, we are bold. We are embracing our blindness. We are blind and we’re beautiful. We’re beautiful because we’re out here doing that, living our lives.

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A selfie of me taken in the doorway to my condo, sporting my stubbly bald head. I’m wearing a black v-neck tee that says “Warrior Life” in white text.

Published by Stephanae

👩🏾‍🦯 | INTJ | HSP | Collector of knowledge | Alpaca Fanatic “If I stop to kick every barking dog, I am not going to get where I'm going.” ~Jackie Joyner-Kersee Hi, I'm Steph! I'm a highly sensitive proud introvert and a recovering people-pleaser. These traits or quirks used to bother me because I always felt out of place until I began a recent process of self-acceptance. While I'm still a work in progress, I view my quirks as my superpowers and am grateful that they contribute to who I am today.

29 thoughts on “Living Life Boldly & Transforming Perceptions

  1. Thank you for your very kind comment but I’m far from perfect and working really hard to embrace my imperfections. It is good to know that reading my words can uplift you especially on a bad eye day.🤗

  2. You are truly inspiring Stephanae. I love reading your posts. You always manage to lift my spirits especially when I’m having a bad eye day. Keep being you. You’re perfect.
    Much love

  3. Oh, I’m so happy to hear that he’s improved and hope he continues to do so. I used to think raising kids was hard until my mother got older and there’s never a dull moment and I am thankful she’s still with us but some days are very challenging. Since you’re in that inbetween stage with a young child and a parent I’d imagine it’s a fine balancing act. Hang in there.💙

  4. Hey Stephanae, I’m good. I’m trying to get back to reading and blogging. He’s good. So much better. The hospital was ready to give up on him and he wanted to fight so we had him transferred to a long-term care facility in Nashville and they got his numbers up, got him off the ventilator and removed the trach. I just cried thank you God. I needed a shifting in my life. He’s now in a nursing home and still has some problems but we’re hoping that he can stay there.

  5. Okay, that would be great because some parts of the video I was not sure of what you were doing and some description would be helpful.

  6. Hi Empish, thank you so much for your comment. Since I didn’t create the video I have no control over the creative process however I can reach out to the producer and ask this question.

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