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Knowing the Flow and Slaying It!!

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Editor’s Note:

In an ongoing effort to increase awareness on sight loss/blindness, Bold Blind Beauty contributor Cheryl Minnette will be inviting readers into the world of what it’s like to live with severe sight loss. These articles are created with the intention of continuing meaningful conversation while further connecting blind and sighted people. We hope you will enjoy these quarterly pieces that will be published under Beauty Buzz & Blog Biz and tagged “Awareness & Sensitivity.”

Initial thoughts…

“Oh no…!!”

“I hope I can do this.”

“A little more variety from the color palette would have helped.”

There are so many beautiful colors in the world, such a vast rainbow to observe. In addition to the many shades, you have your pales, your brights, your darks and your lights. Any color, any hue that you can imagine is some type of blend. So what happens when the color choice is just one? One single color, with no other. No other color to compliment it. No other color to offset it. No other color to contrast with it. How does this single hue appear to you? 

Knowing the Flow and Slaying It!!

Come along with me on a journey that will allow you to gain some mental insight into someone else’s world. Indulge me a moment by closing your eyes as I walk you through a scenario. Are you ready? Let’s go!

All are chatting away and excitement is in the air, electrifying it, as everyone is escorted through the venue. Anticipation peaks as a pair of highly arched, white French doors swing open to reveal the outdoor wedding reception. Immediately you step onto the first of a limited number of oversized white steppingstones, that wind throughout the beautifully manicured lawn. With the sun shining brightly overhead, you may just barely be able to see the tables that are spectacularly decorated off in the distance. 

The first thing you must do is get from point A to point B while trying to appear as graceful as possible. The steppingstones may not be too much of a problem, but look out for those unseen changes in the terrain. A beautiful scene, but not the most ideal place for a blind girl in her stilettos. As the maneuvering continues, all are wondering what will take place when the festivities begin.  

Getting situated at your table and meeting the other table guests is always an interesting process. As you get closer, you hear people marveling at the beauty of the vision before them. There are all-white tablescapes that start with a tablecloth that gently drapes down to kiss the lawn, and chairs that have been stylishly dressed with white chair covers that are snatched with a rear bow and shimmering with crystal and pearl embellishments. As you approach the seating area, the multiple tablescapes appear to be a large white danger zone, an accident waiting to happen. Your mind now begins to race as it is searching and wondering, ‘How on God’s green earth will I get through this?’ Caution becomes the word of the day, as you proceed very cautiously to ensure that minimal damage occurs, but hoping there will be none at all. The challenge here is that, although you pretty much know what should be on the table, you just don’t see it. 

For instance, you may know there’s a place setting, but what type is the question. One must consider what their entire place setting consists of. You know there will be silverware, but the number of pieces is the variable, since there may be between three and eight. Did you know that in this setting the reflection from the sun can cause silverware to disappear, as they can appear to be white? Having a clear item on a sunny day like crystal stemware adds another layer of challenges. You know it’s there, but where and how many is what you need to figure out before they are inadvertently knocked over. 

Note that without any contrast, sun or no sun, everything on the table can blend together as one. So with the place settings, silverware, and crystal stemware, rounding out these tablescapes are large green and white floral arrangements in a tall crystal vase, which is set upon an octagon-shaped mirrored centerpiece. White pearl strands are swirled around the table with crystal accents sprinkled all around.

With this scenario, I’m sure you can understand the pitfalls that would be challenging for someone with severe vision loss and contrast challenges. Is the scene beautiful? Yes, it is. Could it become a tragic scene? Yes, I could. Can one acquire the skills to move through this scenario with poise and grace? Yes, one most definitely can!

These are some of the things that one has to process and work through as part of their day to day life style.

On the one hand, if you are sighted, this monochromatic display may be a breathtakingly picturesque sight to behold. On the other hand, for someone whose visual challenge deals with contrast and severe vision loss, having this tablescape could be like walking a bull through a China Shop. The bull may not demolish the shop, but some damage will definitely occur.  

Give us your thoughts as you comment below as to what you became aware of, what you would like to know, and what you were able to relate to. Your insights and expressions are appreciated.

Believing you are capable
is the first step, But
taking action is the ultimate step.

~Cheryl Minnette

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A pair of silver wedding bands tied together with white satin ribbon on

7 thoughts on “Knowing the Flow and Slaying It!!”

  1. Holistic healing is an important tool to be familiar with. Thank you for the work that you are doing.

    Coming from the world of the sighted, even though now I am living with sight loss, I understand the challenges that those may incur as they are working very hard to live independently in a world designed for the sighted. There are numerous details to be observed that others usually overlook. I believe that knowledge is the key to success and by bringing awareness, the knowledge of what is and what’s needed will assist in causing positive change.

  2. Libby, I can totally relate to the anxiety you must have been feeling at that time. I’ve had it myself. Moving with poise and grace while feeling momentarily alone and possibly lost is something that many do not understand. I am glad you spoke up, so they knew to wait for you. Part of the sight loss process is letting those around us know what we need. This practice makes it better for everyone. Thank you for sharing this memory with us.

  3. Actually, I don’t have sight loss, so don’t struggle with the issues you are addressing. However, growing up with asthma and having a career of doing holistic healing work, I am sensitive to disability issues.

    Along with that though, the spiritual work I do daily and have done for over 5 1/2 years, is focused on bringing forth a new timeline and with that will come available healing and rejuvenation for all you desire it. So my understanding is that all disabilities will be able to be healed and our bodies restored to their original divine design.

    I appreciate the work you are doing to help others in the meantime 🙂

  4. Hi Libby, it’s Steph McCoy. Thank you for reading this post and sharing your experience with us. I’m also familiar with this feeling you’ve described here and think many others can relate as well. I will let Cheryl know you commented and I’m sure she’ll respond as well. ❤

  5. When I went to university, I lived in residence. If I didn’t manage to keep up with my friends when getting food in the cafeteria and therefore be able to walk with them to find a table, I’d enter the giant dining room with a terrible knot in my belly, hoping I could spot them quickly. I was an excellent actress and always appeared cool and calm until I found them. I don’t think I ever told anyone about my anxiety in this situation. I could have simply asked them to wait for me. That’s what I’d do now.

  6. I am glad you enjoyed this article. Thank you for being a Bold Blind Beauty Reeder. I would agree with you that some areas of the web are much more difficult to navigate then others. I look forward to the day when all areas of the web are user-friendly and accessible to all users, which includes the disabled. If you have a topic that you have been curious about related to living with severe sight loss, submit it. It just may become a featured topic in the Awareness & Sensitivity section.

  7. Great article! I just received an email from WP about checking to see that my WP blog is better accessible to those with disabilities. I’m looking forward to that process as even without disabilities of sight there are websites I just avoid as they are too challenging for me to read.

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