Fabulous, Functional & Frugal Fashion Tip #21

Lose The Hypercriticism

I'm posing for the camera standing with my white cane prior to leaving for the evening.Like a little kid anxiously awaiting Christmas morning, I was so excited to launch personal preparations for an upcoming gathering with friends. I carefully selected an outfit including a couple of baubles, had a mani/pedi, updated my makeup, and dare I say this here? Eh, why not? Ordered a new wig.

Everything was lining up pretty nicely as my online orders began arriving last week. So what if the larger of the two same pair of jeans I ordered fit? At least I had the presence of mind to order two different sizes (just in case).

Then it happened. On Tuesday stuff started going haywire.

I’d received just about everything except for the wig but I thought ‘no worries’ I still have two days left to get it in time for my outing. This was the first of several annoyances.

the gang

On the way home from my spa day I examined my newly manicured fingernails and thought they didn’t look quite right. Throughout the balance of the day, night, and into the next morning disappointment mingled with thoughts of disgust (because of money forked out) flitted in and out of my mind on my nail situation. It got to the point I had to call the nail salon to request a redo for the following morning.

the gang2

So, yesterday afternoon with nails redone and still no wig I begin getting ready for the evening. Even though I was bummed about the hair situation I was still excited to use my new makeup that is until I began applying my eyeliner. One eye was done, then I go to twist the liner pencil only to hear the sickening sound of a click indicating it was empty. But because I do denial extremely well there I am at the bathroom mirror continuing to twist the pencil with the expectation that mystically magically more product would appear-drat! Time to break out the emergency backup liner pencil even though it’s not the right color it would have to do.

white boyfriend jeans

While my final look wasn’t exactly as I imagined just as soon as my phone rang I was all grins. It was Margie and she was outside waiting for me. As soon as I get in her car thoughts of increased size, wigs, nails, and eyeliners flew out the window. We were on our way to meet ‘The Gang.’

‘The Gang’ includes extraordinary people with whom there are no pretenses. Nothing is ever off the table because we can laugh, cry, share and talk about contentious topics like politics, race, religion while respecting differing opinions. This is what it’s about—life is about people. It’s about a mutual appreciation for one another and loving unconditionally.

I began this post to demonstrate that appearance isn’t everything and when we place too much focus on those minute things (many which are barely noticed by others) we lose sight of what’s really meaningful.

Outfit Description:

  • White boyfriend jeans (I talked about these last week in Tip #20) | Macy’s
  • Heather grey, long-sleeved, ribbed lattice detail top | Macy’s
  • Nude lace-up block heeled sandals | DSW

Have a great weekend!!



Published by Stephanae

👩🏾‍🦯 | INTJ | HSP | Collector of knowledge | Alpaca Fanatic “If I stop to kick every barking dog, I am not going to get where I'm going.” ~Jackie Joyner-Kersee Hi, I'm Steph! I'm a highly sensitive proud introvert and a recovering people-pleaser. These traits or quirks used to bother me because I always felt out of place until I began a recent process of self-acceptance. While I'm still a work in progress, I view my quirks as my superpowers and am grateful that they contribute to who I am today.

25 thoughts on “Fabulous, Functional & Frugal Fashion Tip #21

  1. Thank you! You’re exactly right. We are far harsher critics on ourselves than we need to be. On those rare occasions when people do notice a perceived issue it’s typically because we point it out.

  2. Oh at first I was panicking. It’s definitely about the people and the things we consider flaws aren’t even noticed by most people.

  3. Haha! I would be panicking about the eyeliner situation! But you couldn’t be more right about appearances. It’s all about the people you’re with.

  4. You’re welcome. I’ve talked to so many women over the years who have said they’d love to try to wear a wig but didn’t think they could pull it off. It can be a little daunting for a person who has never worn a wig to get past the psychological barrier of their own hair but with so many options available today wearing a wig isn’t taboo like it was years ago.

  5. Thank you Brigid. I’ve worn wigs off and on for a number of years just to mix up my look. My most important tip is looking at them as an accessory that enhances your confidence. I always try to buy them at a wig shop in person because doing it online doesn’t give an accurate view of how they will look once you receive them. However this particular one that I’m waiting on I’m hopeful that it will look like as pictured and also make me feel good. I’ve made some huge mistakes in picking out wigs that weren’t so flattering but I wouldn’t have known had I not tried so my third tip would be to tap into your adventurous side.

  6. Oh Steph, I had to chuckle about the eye-liner situation. It happens and it is amazing how those things only happen at crucial times. I am pleased you had a back-up 🙂 even though not quite the right colour, you could start a trend 🙂
    You look great by the way. In fact, you always do ! x

  7. Hi Peta, Thank you for reading and commenting. It’s such a pleasure having you pass through.

    I had to laugh as well during the eyeliner situation. Because while my brain knew it was empty I still kept twisting the blasted thing.

  8. Such a great story…because it is so true that we all stress about little things like not getting perfect manis etc when really what our friends notice and enjoy most are the laughs, and as you say “mutual appreciation”. That said, you look great in those white skinny jeans and I chuckled while reading about the eyeliner “misfunction.”


  9. Thanks Katelon! I love the shoes. They felt pretty good even though I did quite a bit of standing. I’m really liking the thicker heels.

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