HEALTH & WELLNESS
Bold Blind Beauty is thrilled to share with you snippets from Becky Andrews’ new book “Cultivating our Resilience Workbook/Journal.” Adversity strengthens and builds resilience; Becky will share weekly practices to help us become more resilient. ~Steph
We are at our final practice in Cultivating Resilience. I hope you have enjoyed this series and found them to be helpful.
As I mentioned in the introduction, these are the practices that I find helpful in my own life and with my clients as we cultivate resilience. Cultivate is an action word. It means we are continuing to create, to dig down, to pause, to ask for what we need TO CULTIVATE our resilience. Resilience is that time of being stretched, pulled, and transformed as we navigate challenging times in our lives.
Let’s review the last nine practices:
- Practice one: Give yourself permission to feel. Honor your feelings and what you need.
- Practice two: Take care of yourself and offer yourself much self-compassion for the journey.
- Practice three: Utilize your strengths in the journey. Be authentically you as you navigate the challenging time.
- Practice four: Reach out for support. Practice healthy boundaries and relationships.
- Practice five: Resilience takes much grit and determination. Recognize and acknowledge your efforts.
- Practice six: Find moments to savor, practice gratitude, and be mindful.
- Practice seven: Find laughter and joy in each day.
- Practice eight: Open to flexibility. Perhaps there is another way.
- Practice nine: Find the meaningful moments and lessons learned along the way.
Today’s Practice 10 Is Giving Back
Helping Others. I think of it after we have found that lemonade, how are we going to serve the lemonade to others?
In Victor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, he teaches that we can discover meaning in three ways: first by creating work or doing deeds to help others, second by experiencing something or encountering someone, and third, by the attitude, we take toward unavoidable suffering.
Creating work or doing deeds to help others is indeed discovering meaning through our challenges. When we recognize that our difficult time may give us insight to help someone else, it can become empowering. It can become our why. It can become our way of sharing the lemonade that we have gained.
Through this journey, we have been on what has resonated with you? How can you give back in a meaningful way to help others? Take a pause as much time as you need to ask yourself this question.
Writing for Bold Blind Beauty gives me pause to think of the impact of Stephanae McCoy on the multiple ways she continues to give back and offer help to others from her challenging times. Such an example of resilience and doing just that.
These practices are for you to explore. I honor your unique journey and what is helpful to you as you cultivate resilience. Be yourself. Do what feels best for you. Take it a step at a time in the direction that you want to go. Be kind and gentle to yourself on the journey. Recognize your grit and determination. It truly is awe-inspiring to see the human spirit. Recognize that perhaps, there is another way will help us in our resilience plan. Watch for those meaningful moments and lessons learned along the way. And then, offer lemonade to others. You can make a difference to someone else’s life.
If you’d like to join me in our next Cultivate Resilience course – email: email@example.com. It will begin the week of September 14th. This is my opportunity to give back and the course is just $35 for 6 sessions. I would love to hear from you and what you have found most helpful about these practices. Also, my cultivate workbook is almost complete. I would love to hear from you on the way you find a workbook to be most accessible.
About The Author:
Becky Andrews is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Small Business Owner – Resilient Solutions, Inc, and founder of the Daring to Own Your Story ™ Retreats. She is also the author of Look up, move forward – her memoir of Losing her eyesight and finding her vision.
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Cultivating our Resilience Workbook/Journal will be out Fall 2020. Email Becky at firstname.lastname@example.org to be on the waiting list or preorder.
- Header: Photo of Becky sitting on an indoor staircase next to her guide dog, Georgie, a gorgeous yellow lab.
- Lemonade: Photo of a pitcher of lemonade with two full mason glasses sitting on a wicker tray with several loose lemons strewn about. Text on the image says “Cultivating Resilience” and “Becky Andrews, LCMHC.”
- Hitting Their Stride: Becky appears so joyful as she and Georgie walk a dirt path in the open countryside.
- Becky is sitting on outdoor steps next to her guide dog, Georgie, a gorgeous yellow lab.