Learning To Be Present Through The Loss Of Sight

“I never thought I could “go through that” until going through “that” was the best alternative.”

Being a pragmatic person who has to have loads of information, then weigh the pros and cons, when faced with a situation where the path forward appears murky I try to find another path. When my eyesight began dwindling away and pathways to vision restoration closed down I was stopped in my tracks.

Residing in a state of denial during the span of time from when I was declared legally blind up until I needed to begin using the white cane was my new reality. The fear wasn’t so much the blindness rather it was the not knowing what was ahead.

Since the decline of my eyesight was so severe it was excruciating not being able to see further than my new limitation. The white cane became not only my lifeline but the tool that would be my eyes so that I could relax and travel safely.

I feel so vulnerable when I take my dog, Mollie, outside because it’s not practical to use my white cane. Without the cane, my steps are a little unsure and I have to trust Mollie to warn me if an animal or person invades our space.

It occurred to me that it’s within this range of either Mollie or my white cane that I’m safe. No, I can’t determine what’s beyond the range but that’s okay because all I have to concern myself with is where I’m at now.

On Mother’s Day, I felt that same sense of safety as me and several family members had dinner with my mother at the nursing home. We laughed and had such a great time enjoying each other’s company I didn’t even look at my phone except to take a picture of my grandson.

I know that time is winding down not just for my mother but all of us. More and more each day I am given I enjoy my loved ones and can’t imagine what life would be like without them.

Life is way too short to waste it focusing on things we have no control over. Live life now and be in the moment.

Low Key Ensemble

What I wore: Ann Taylor black tee (old), black leggings, black crisscross heels | DSW, gray long hooded vest, and of course my white cane. I wore a long silver toned tassel necklace, cuff bracelet, and earrings.

A Mother’s Day Wish

Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.
~Sharon Jaynes

A pretty flower in shades of lavender against a white background. Includes the quote "Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles." Sharon Jaynes from Bold Blind BeautyMy sons will tell you I was never one of those mothers who would win a “Mother Of The Year” award. Raising three boys as a single parent was far from idyllic and many days I wanted so badly to throw in the towel.

The massive responsibility of cultivating young minds was a task in which I never felt so inept. Looking at my adult sons today, any success at motherhood wasn’t because of anything I’ve done rather it came about as a result of the changes that took place in me because of my children.

Sacrifice is at the heart of motherhood. It begins the moment we accept our children and continues until our last breath.

For all you moms, and this includes those who serve in the role of motherhood, I wish you a Happy Mother’s Day from Bold Blind Beauty!

A Lil’ Inspiration #34

Portrait of Dalai Lama is about the quoted text.“Whether one is rich or poor, educated or illiterate, religious or nonbelieving, man or woman, black, white, or brown, we are all the same. Physically, emotionally, and mentally, we are all equal. We all share basic needs for food, shelter, safety, and love. We all aspire to happiness and we all shun suffering. Each of us has hopes, worries, fears, and dreams. Each of us wants the best for our family and loved ones. We all experience pain when we suffer loss and joy when we achieve what we seek. On this fundamental level, religion, ethnicity, culture, and language make no difference.” ~ Dalai Lama
#we #people #humanity #equality

A Lil’ Inspiration #33

“Failure to understand why I use a white cane on your part, does not constitute an explanation on my part.” ~Steph McCoy

Tri panel collage of me posed standing and sitting with my white cane.If you fear using a mobility tool because of what other people think, fear no more. Do this for you and no one else!

I’m 56 years old, I don’t ‘look’ like I’m blind but because I don’t ‘look’ it doesn’t change the fact that I am. Nowadays when I fall it’s no longer a joke, it actually hurts. So if using the white cane keeps me from stumbling, I’m ALL IN!

There is no shame in having a disability. SHINE ON!! Get out there and LIVE life💖 You got this!

#nofear #noshame #noexplanation #yougotthis