A Lil’ Inspiration #22

Giving In Is Not Giving Up

“2009 marked my last unsuccessful vitrectomy. “I’m sorry there’s no more we can do for you” the doctor’s voice was like a distant echo and just like that I was declared legally blind.”

Professional business headshot photo of me In June of this year, it will be eight years since I was declared legally blind. If someone would have told me prior to my eye issues that I would survive without seeing I would have told them “no way!” I am so thankful reality is so much better than the fears I drummed up prior to my sight loss.

I can’t lie, going from darn near perfect correctable vision to no longer being able to see the eye chart was scary. So many questions like how am I going to work, how will I be able to remain independent, how can I do the things I used to do, how will I enjoy life? For many long days and nights, I was paralyzed with the fear of facing the unknown and I never felt so alone. Then something amazing happened…

I gave in. I didn’t give up. Once I faced my fear it opened the door to new and exciting opportunities. I learned how to use assistive devices to maintain my independence, keep my job, and navigate the world on my own. I got heavily involved with several blindness organizations working for justice while simultaneously breaking down stereotypes and most importantly, I now have the most amazing people in my life I would not have met if I did not experience sight loss.

Blindness is not the worse thing that can happen to a person. Never underestimate your resilience through any challenge. You are far more capable of not only continuing onward but thriving as you move forward.

Happy Friday & Have a great weekend!!


  1. Sometimes you really don’t know what you can do, until you’re pretty much forced to do it. Love the message here, which I take to be: “Just keep moving forward.”

  2. thank you for writing such a wonderful piece! And giving wisdom and valuable perspective to all of us.

  3. Steph, this is a truly inspiring post. A very wise distinction between giving in and giving up. I can’t imagine how devastating that first diagnosis must have been. But here you are – not only surviving but flourishing and offering hope to others.

  4. Hi Uneka, Welcome and thank you!! It’s great to have you here. I have a lot of friends who have RP and a few who have Usher Syndrome (RP and hearing loss).

  5. YES!! Me too it came out of nowhere. I was at work, freezing cold so I went to put a pot of coffee on and before I could take my first sip I felt nauseous, broke out in a cold sweat, heart was beating fast. I thought I was gonna die for sure. I began having them in my late 30s and they’ve just began tapering off a couple of years ago.

  6. I am legally blind too due to a eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. Your blog is so inspiring to read. I believe God always guides through whatever we want to achieve.

  7. Yes, menopause is a surprise isn’t it. I wasn’t prepared either. I thought I was going to have a heart attack when the first hot flash hit. 🙂

  8. Yes, you are 💯% right. When considering the alternative I’d much rather adjust. But I’ll tell you what though I wish I would have been more adequately prepared for age related issues. The whole grunting when rising from a seated position, tooting in inappropriate areas, hot flashes although I don’t get them as frequently as I used to.

  9. No I don’t have vision problems besides age related reading glasses. I had some serious health problems myself and I know that our attitude is half of the “rent.” No matter if it’s dealing with cancer or vision problems or chronic diseases, we always have a choice. We can be miserable and give up or we can try to adjust.

  10. Some days like everyone else I still battle but on those days I look to others in my network for inspiration. Connecting with people here on WP and Instagram is especially fulfilling.

  11. Thank you Camie😊 Believe me in the early days my attitude was a tad crappy but thank heaven for second chances. 💖

  12. You are spot on Bruce. It took a greater part of my life to learn this lesson and there are days I still feel a little off kilter but that’s okay. As long as I’m still here there is something worth fighting for.

  13. You are amazing! We all have our trials but our attitudes make all the difference. You have the right attitude and that is inspiring. 💖

  14. Onward, forward and upward Steph! I do believe turning negatives into positives is what successfully juggling our way through life boils down to. You’ve certainly done just that!

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