A Lil’ Inspiration #12 Emily

Focusing on Ability = Boundless Opportunities

Facebook Emily 1.25.16The other day one of my sons and I went to the mall. Now if you’ve been following me for any length of time you know that going to the mall is not on my list of favorite things. However on this particular day, after being involuntarily confined to my home for a couple of weeks, I was game.

After walking around for a bit then stopping for a bite to eat, as we were preparing to leave my son says to me. “What is wrong with people?” I ask him what he means and he says “I’m sick of people staring at your cane, it’s 2016 why do people still stare at people who use mobility devices?”

While I can’t surmise the behavior of others, I am grateful that I can’t see the gawking. I think this is one reason people who are newly affected by sight loss go to great lengths to pretend they can still see but this is not the purpose of today’s quote.

Being blind or visually impaired does not automatically mean that you have to be unfashionable. That is the message at the crux of my blog Fashioneyesta. ~Emily Davison

Image Description: Quoted text is white superimposed on four images of London, Paris, Milan and New York.

Emily Davison, fashion/beauty blogger and owner of the blog Fashioneyesta hits the nail on the head by placing the focus on ability and not disability. We are living in an era where people with disabilities are aggressively finding creative solutions to overcoming the obstacles they face.

In short, what this means is, as a society we have to change the way we view people period. Anyone, regardless of their circumstances should not be placed in a box of conformity based on what we think they can or cannot do. Once we are able to understand that every living person has a purpose and is capable of impacting the world, it will be then hopefully, we become truly united.

Published by Stephanae

👩🏾‍🦯 | INTJ | HSP | Collector of knowledge | Alpaca Fanatic “If I stop to kick every barking dog, I am not going to get where I'm going.” ~Jackie Joyner-Kersee Hi, I'm Steph! I'm a highly sensitive proud introvert and a recovering people-pleaser. These traits or quirks used to bother me because I always felt out of place until I began a recent process of self-acceptance. While I'm still a work in progress, I view my quirks as my superpowers and am grateful that they contribute to who I am today.

28 thoughts on “A Lil’ Inspiration #12 Emily

  1. Love the way you sum this up, Steph: “Once we are able to understand that every living person has a purpose and is capable of impacting the world, it will be then hopefully, we become truly united.” I’m with you one hundred percent! 🙂

  2. Thank you Lynne and good for you that you stare back at them. I remember people doing the same thing with my mother (her body has become disfigured due to Dystonia). People would stare at her with her walker and few times I would ask what their issue was, I got so annoyed.

  3. Brilliant post Steph !
    People that stare annoy me. My daughter is not sight impaired, but she is now mentally challenged..(it’s a long story) I do take her out with me as it is good for her to get out the house, and trust me, people stare. At first, it used to bother me, now, I just stare back ! x

  4. I hear you Katy. I can’t understand why we can’t get past this. I’m from an era where it was considered rude to stare but as one of my newest reads said, most of these individuals are in the minority thank goodness. Even so it’s still unnerving when it happens.

  5. I could not agree more. I still get stared at all the time with my walker when I am out with friends like people have never seen it before. I may use a walker, but I am still a normal person who can carry on normal conversations with people.

  6. People have nothing to do ; so they look to see who is not the same as themselves. Howver, when they see a disabled person; BAM!! they zero in on that person and stare at them like maybe they saw 2 heads instead of one head and a whole person. Maybe they should take a better look at themselves and see what disabilities they have. This way they should have a better understanding of us disabled persons.

    Sherri Rodgerso

  7. The staring really gets to me, and the way the crowd noise changes when I enter a room full of people, as they realize a blind person has just entered their midst. The worst though is the feeling that the role they expect me to fill in society is to be the pitiable person whose very existence reminds them to be grateful for their own lot in life. I don’t like being put in that position.

  8. wow i love this. I was really caught up by this last words, ” …regardless of our circumstances we should not be placed in a box of conformity based on what we think we can or cannot do. Once we are able to understand that every living person has a purpose and is capable of impacting the world, it will be then hopefully, we become truly united.” It is soo true. We are all born for a purpose and our circumstances shouldn’t come in the way of our triumph. Unfortunately, it will take a lil more for some to understand this….but when it’s fully digested, i bet we’ll be close to world dominance. Thanks Steph. I’ve got bulbs glowing in my head now from this words.What an eye-opener.
    much love, George

  9. Yes my site is sorted now. Some funny malicious attempt was going on so between myself, WordPress engineers and the Google people, it got sorted. Children can be very forthright which I like 🙂

  10. Thanks Bun, I think we are too or at least I hope so. It’s going to be an ongoing process but I believe it can be done. I’m especially encouraged by all the younger people, like Emily, who are making their mark.

  11. Hey Jackie, how are you? Has your sight gotten straightened out? I received a warning message when I tried to access it the other day.
    Yeah, I don’t understand the staring unless it’s children and honestly they most of them will just come out an ask what the cane is for which allows for a conversation with them about blindness. The ones I’ve spoken to are very receptive. Lack of exposure I’m sure has quite a bit to do with it because on the whole where disabilities are concerned blindness ranks very low.
    Yay!!! I will be there at your party right now 🙂 Thanks

  12. I’m always inspired by your energy and drive and that of the people you feature on your blog, Steph. I think you are all chipping away at old attitudes piece by piece.

  13. What I don’t get is what the staring is for. Well maybe I am a bit used to it because I have an uncle who went from full sight to total blindness.
    It’s lack of exposure that causes it in my opinion.
    Steph I hope you will find time to step in for my blog party this weekend. It’s going on right now.
    Regards 😊

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