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The Cheering Section Silences The Self-Critic

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Are you tired of feeling so invisible?
Are you sick of silencing your voice?
Do you still have hope that peace is possible?
My friend, oh you are not alone

You Are Not Alone | Songwriters: Emeli Sande / James Poyser / Salaam Remi

Squashing The Self-Critic

I hadn’t planned on doing a blog post today because I have two back-to-back speaking engagements this weekend. Seriously, I must be having some sort of out of body experience since I SHOULD be practicing instead of writing. However, when inspiration strikes I have to trust my gut and go with it. So here we go:

I am so excited about the events on Friday and Saturday because I get to do what I love—advocacy! Talking about the value and abilities of people with disabilities makes my heart want to explode. Well, maybe not explode because that would kill me, but you catch my drift. So anyways, the thought occurred to me, while in the shower I might add, that none of this could be possible without my cheering section.

My self-critic, I call her Cruella, as she’s quite cruel, is a monster. Fun fact: Cruella de Vil is also my alter ego who I adore because she’s so deliciously evil, but I digress.

Cruella the self-critic is constantly chattering non-stop in my head telling me I can’t do this, that or the other. Some days the noise is so loud I have to stop what I’m doing and take a nap, she wears me out so. However, today, while showering I heard another sound, it started out small then grew tall. To my delight, I discovered it was my very own cheering section. Honestly, I couldn’t help but get a little misty-eyed because the cheering section silenced Cruella.

Thank You To My Cheering Section

You know who you are! You’re in the arena with me and accept me as I am, flaws and all, unconditionally. I’m so thankful to have you in my circle.

Robert, the braille and large print booklets you created are phenomenal. Kathy, the braille mugs are perfect. Vicky, the powerpoint presentation with audio cues exceeds my wildest expectations. Amy, offering to manage the BBB Facebook page has been huge and I can’t thank you enough. Carla, you are no longer with us yet your voice is one of the loudest and most supportive. Becky, and the Giggle Girls, I will carry you in my heart while sharing my message on the importance of inclusion and representation. Gigi, your constant encouragement has meant so much to me. Holly, Maria, Chelsea, Max, Nasreen, George, Cate, and Jose our friendships/partnerships are so meaningful and you are extraordinary people.

There are so many other people out there who’ve supported me and I am so grateful for our connection. Thank you for being there for me, you’re the BEST! ~Steph

During my talks, I’ll share my recipe for social entrepreneurship and limitless possibilities. If you happen to be in the area you can catch me here:

  • Disability InSIGHTS – October 18, Erie, PA
  • SPARK Saturday (Self-confidence, Peer support, Accessibility, Resources, & Knowledge) – October 19, Harrisburg, PA (Pennsylvania Council of the Blind Annual Conference)

On a side note, Emile Sandé is one of my favorite artists and here’s an awesome song from her new album.

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9 thoughts on “The Cheering Section Silences The Self-Critic

  1. Steph you are awesome. Timely post, too. I just broadcasted live a few moments ago on this same topic. When folks cheer us, and when we face and feel fears fueling the inner critic, it quiets down quite a bit. Keep on inspiring.

    Ryan

    1. Thank you Ryan!!

    2. Ryan, was your broadcast recorded? I’d like to take a listen if it was.

  2. Thank you, Steph. Your friendship and behind the scenes support mean so much. As for practicing, you know your stuff! I hope things are going these couple of days. You could join your audience with no preparation and teach and inspire.

    1. Thank you George!! Both events went extremely well and I couldn’t believe my good fortune. In Erie, I met some awesome contacts who are thrilled at the prospect of being featured in CM. By the way, I’ll update you on our status by email today or tomorrow.

  3. You rock, Steph! You inspire me and I’ll always keep cheering you on!

    1. Awe, Beckie!!!! Gosh, I’m gonna get all misty-eyed. Hey, when are you going to be doing book signings?

  4. Giving recognition, thanks and praise to those who deserve it, is a win-win and bouquets to you for listening to your cheer squad. Cruela, no doubt has her place, but today, you shine with all those you’ve named Steph. Sending my best to you for the two talks. Xx

    1. Thank you so much Wendy!! I’m so excited and scared silly at the same time.

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