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Bodacious Beauty, Acceptance & Self-Esteem

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Bodacious Beauty, Acceptance & Self-Esteem

Loving yourself while working to become the best version of yourself for YOU is key!

A Recent Outing

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I love the humorous banter between my son and I. Here is a recent exchange between him and me on a shopping excursion for exercise apparel. 

Me: Do you know what body shape I am?

Son: (Laughing) Round?

Me: (Exasperated tone) No! I’m a triangle.

Son: (Still laughing) Don’t you mean you’re a cone shape? Like a traffic cone?

Me: **crickets** (Then I begin laughing hysterically)

An Authentic Hot Mess

I’m a hot mess and I know it! According to my medical chart, I’m obese, a fact of which I’ve lived in denial for a few years now.

Do you know how hard it is to take pictures from the right angle to hide present a more pleasing view? No longer a spring chicken it’s almost impossible to suck in an overabundance of a stomach that used to be a waistline.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed the willpower I used to have has given way to “oh, what the heck?” It’s a plan that works very effectively. I eat what I want when I want and it feels so GOOD. That is until I have to look presentable and find to my dismay my clothes don’t fit—surprise.

What I’ve learned is there’s only so much one can consume before it becomes a serious problem. The “head in the sand” approach is no longer working and I have to, I can’t believe I’m gonna say this, exercise and eat right.

My son thought it was hilarious that I was wearing skinny jeans that showed every bump and bulge. His thinking was skinny jeans are for skinny people. But my thinking is skinny jeans are for anyone as long as the fit is right. Obviously, with my increasing poundage mine have not been fitting right for some time, another case of denial. But, and this is huge, I’m going to use that gym membership I secured last year. And, I’m gonna make better choices when it comes to eating (at least I hope so). I just may resort to the “Oh what the heck?” philosophy.

Getting To The Point

The point I’m trying to make is while my image is important to me I try to balance it with humor. We only come this way once and I want to make the most of it by not being too hard on myself. The understanding I will never be pleasing to everyone is freeing and magnificently beneficial to my psyche.

Accepting yourself while working to become the best version of you for YOU is key! What was life-changing for me was realizing that being my best for myself was what mattered most.

Here’s a little perspective: there are over 7 billion people on earth, all are unique and all won’t like everyone.

Bodacious Beauty Featured Image Description:

This shot is a pose of me with ‘black’ #WhiteCane, taken from the perspective of me looking down at my feet. My cane is to the left of my right foot. I’m wearing white skinny jeans paired with tan ballet flats with a little poofy floret type thing on top.

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Mirror selfie of me wearing a black polo shirt with an embroidered design of Abby, text, and braille.

12 thoughts on “Bodacious Beauty, Acceptance & Self-Esteem

  1. Amazing. Well written. Self love n self acceptance is crucial. https://feminism2.home.blog/2018/09/29/love-me-for-what-i-am/

    1. Thank you!😊

  2. You go girl! And to make it easier on yourself; use the 80/20 percent rule in the beginning. Permit yourself to enjoy a unhealthy treat/meal, for instance once a week. It will make it so much easier to stick to healthy natural food 80 percent of the time.
    Big hugs! XxX

    1. Hi Patty, thank you for the encouragement. Part of my issue is no longer being able to sustain a normal level of portion control. When I give myself a little slack I go ALL in and overdo. What I need is to find balance. I’ll get there but either way I’m still gonna laugh and have a good time along the way.

      1. That’s the spirit! And there are so many healthy delicious snacks; so will find that balance 😉

      2. 👍🏽

  3. Lovely perspective of that old monster that lurks in every woman’s life, Steph. You always look amazing, so either you are successful with the angles or you’re way too hard on yourself.

    1. Hi Robyn, thank you so much for your sweet comment. Unfortunately my belly has gotten so big I really do look like I’m about 20 months pregnant.🤣I used to be able to suck it all in but when I let it hang loose (which is only behind closed doors) I scare myself. 😱But even so I know the changes will begin to take place when I’m ready.

  4. Ha, ha! I think you’ve been reading my mind. As the age goes by so does the weight seem to pile on. I am trying to get a grip on my handles 😉

    1. Tell me about and this never-ending hunger is ridiculous. It’s gotten way to easy to say “I’m gonna do this, that, or the other” and then when the time comes I readjust my thinking to support my bad habits. 😱🤣But I can say even with the weight gain and such I’m still enjoying the ride on life.

  5. Love your humour and the important message you share here. Accepting ourselves as we are is key. We need to let go of perfection, and live. Life is too short. Brilliant write, Steph!

    1. Thank you Khaya!! 💖🤗

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