Lose The Hypercriticism
Like a little kid anxiously awaiting Christmas morning, I was so excited to launch personal preparations for an upcoming gathering with friends. I carefully selected an outfit including a couple of baubles, had a mani/pedi, updated my makeup, and dare I say this here? Eh, why not? Ordered a new wig.
Everything was lining up pretty nicely as my online orders began arriving last week. So what if the larger of the two same pair of jeans I ordered fit? At least I had the presence of mind to order two different sizes (just in case).
Then it happened. On Tuesday stuff started going haywire.
I’d received just about everything except for the wig but I thought ‘no worries’ I still have two days left to get it in time for my outing. This was the first of several annoyances.
On the way home from my spa day I examined my newly manicured fingernails and thought they didn’t look quite right. Throughout the balance of the day, night, and into the next morning disappointment mingled with thoughts of disgust (because of money forked out) flitted in and out of my mind on my nail situation. It got to the point I had to call the nail salon to request a redo for the following morning.
So, yesterday afternoon with nails redone and still no wig I begin getting ready for the evening. Even though I was bummed about the hair situation I was still excited to use my new makeup that is until I began applying my eyeliner. One eye was done, then I go to twist the liner pencil only to hear the sickening sound of a click indicating it was empty. But because I do denial extremely well there I am at the bathroom mirror continuing to twist the pencil with the expectation that mystically magically more product would appear-drat! Time to break out the emergency backup liner pencil even though it’s not the right color it would have to do.
While my final look wasn’t exactly as I imagined just as soon as my phone rang I was all grins. It was Margie and she was outside waiting for me. As soon as I get in her car thoughts of increased size, wigs, nails, and eyeliners flew out the window. We were on our way to meet ‘The Gang.’
‘The Gang’ includes extraordinary people with whom there are no pretenses. Nothing is ever off the table because we can laugh, cry, share and talk about contentious topics like politics, race, religion while respecting differing opinions. This is what it’s about—life is about people. It’s about a mutual appreciation for one another and loving unconditionally.
I began this post to demonstrate that appearance isn’t everything and when we place too much focus on those minute things (many which are barely noticed by others) we lose sight of what’s really meaningful.
- White boyfriend jeans (I talked about these last week in Tip #20) | Macy’s
- Heather grey, long-sleeved, ribbed lattice detail top | Macy’s
- Nude lace-up block heeled sandals | DSW
Have a great weekend!!