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Invisible Yet Conspicuous

“Sometimes I feel I am invisible and the next second I am terrified of how much I stand out.” ~Kerry Kijewski kkherheadache.wordpress.com

Have you ever felt like Kerry? One minute you feel like you’re invisible yet at the same time you feel anxiety for being conspicuous?

Blindness, especially when you use mobility aids that make your disability apparent to the world can give you a feeling of bringing undue attention to yourself. It’s true when you are out in public with tools of independence you do stand out. You might feel a little apprehensive or even panic-stricken but here’s the thing by pushing through the fear you will find your strength.

People are going to look, they are going to presume to know what your story is by outward appearances, they may even go so far as to say rude things to you but until they know you, they don’t know you. Just keep being you, you are more than your disability and maybe you do stand out in the crowd but that’s okay because you made the decision to continue living your life by moving forward and that is outstanding. You are OUTSTANDING!!

Image: Kerry Kijewski is smiling and showing off her new Abigail (Abby) “Relax It’s Only A Cane” black tee.

#outstanding #exceptional #fabulous #impressive #rise

14 thoughts on “Invisible Yet Conspicuous

  1. “Just keep being you, you are more than your disability and maybe you do stand out in the crowd but that’s okay because you made the decision to continue living your life by moving forward and that is outstanding. You are OUTSTANDING!!” Excellent advice.

  2. Sound advice for all of us Steph to just be ourselves and be very confident in who we are. Especially in these times. Some people will always stereotype and presume. It may be that group is more vocal and outgoing now rather than their numbers are actually growing. At least that’s what I’d like to think…we aren’t “losing” more folks to that behavior. Have a great weekend Steph!

    1. I think you’re right Bruce. Sitting behind a computer has made it emboldened many others who probably wouldn’t be so antagonistic in person. I also hang onto the hope that there is hope for us as a human race to overcome the negativity.

  3. It’s hard for me to imagine someone being rude to a blind person who is out in the world being independent. Boggles my mind. Keep being brave and being you. <3

    1. Thanks Diana!! 😊 Unfortunately we are living in times of almost pure hatred. There was an article about a situation concerning lack of accommodation for a blind individual and many of the comments in response were vicious. It really does boggle the mind.

      1. The negativity and hatred used to gain and retain power is frightening. It’s such a huge problem and so insidious. Ugh. I have a feeling it’s going to be worse before it gets better. Keep smiling and spreading the love, Steph.

      2. It is frightening and like you,Diana, I think it will get worse before it gets better. The only thing we can cling to now is hope for positive change.

  4. You are “unknowingly helping someone else” in another way too–those of us who take sight for granted (me, for one) and are not thankful every day for the beauty we see and the freedom we have. Also by being out and about with assistance equipment reminds us to be respectful of persons who are living proudly with whatever they are given.

    1. Thank you for your kind words Albert. As I get older I find there is always something to be grateful for and just “being” is awe-inspiring. So when I look at all the things the brain and human body of capable of it blows me away. I understood the gift of sight from an early age because I was born severely near-sighted but was unaware of it until I received my first pair of eyeglasses. So I feel so grateful to have had so many years where my vision could be corrected.

      Your comment of being respectful of others is huge because I think with the advances in technology and so called connection we are further apart now than ever before. I think having manners, being respectful and showing compassion would go further in helping us be more connected.

  5. I’m sure you do stand out in a crowd Steph, but only because you’re a beautiful lady with tremendous style and a personality to match. Knock ’em dead.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx

    1. You’re too kind David, thank you😘 It is a little different since I can no longer see facial expressions and I’m never sure if the white cane gets in the way. Truth is, depending on the situation I also feel anxiety. For example yesterday I went for my eye appt with the retina specialist and as soon as I walked into the waiting room I felt the glances but I took my seat and proceeded to fill out paperwork. This is a process in itself as I take pictures of the forms so I can enlarge the text to complete them. The way I deal with my insecurity is reminding myself that my walk is bigger than me and I realize I could be unknowingly helping someone else who’s struggling with sight loss.

  6. I love it. Encouraging.

    1. Thank you Uneka!💗

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