Women On The Move: Becky Andrews

A bend in the road is not the end of the road unless we fail to make the turn – Helen Keller 

Becky is seated with her guide dog Georgie by her side
Becky and her guide dog Georgie

As I began to lose my eyesight from Retinitis Pigmentosa, this quote became a mantra. Blindness was not going to stop me from being active and engaged in life. At first, I didn’t know how but knew a resilient spirit and so many encouraging family and friends would help me stay active and engaged in life. It isn’t always easy yet being willing to be open to those new, at times challenging turns in the road was so important in my resilient journey. I recall early on in my vision loss, my vocational rehabilitation counselor, Marianne, left me a sweet message saying “now Becky I’m paraphrasing from the quote …  remember when one door closes another door opens but we can’t longingly look back at the closed doors.  You can do this.” There was time for feelings of loss and then a time to look up and move forward. I reflect on the decisions to begin mobility training, choosing the guide dog lifestyle, tandem cycling, running with a guide and tether and so many other turns in the road that expanded my world in new ways.  

Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune L-R Suzette Hirst, Becky Andrews, and Brenda Petersen. Hirst and Peterson ran as Becky's guide in the Boston Marathon, and take turns guiding her, nearly everyday, as they run in their Bountiful neighborhood. Friday, July 23, 2015.
Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune
L-R Suzette Hirst, Becky Andrews, and Brenda Petersen. Hirst and Peterson ran as Becky’s guide in the Boston Marathon, and take turns guiding her, nearly everyday, as they run in their Bountiful neighborhood. Friday, July 23, 2015.

After completing my master’s degree in counseling and gaining experience in several agencies, I began to dream about having my own private practice. I knew it needed the word Resilient in it. As Steve, my incredible husband of 32 years, and I brainstormed, the name Resilient Solutions resonated as a name for an individual, marriage, and family therapy practice. Today, eleven years later our practice has grown to 15 therapists. Truly it warms my heart when someone says, this feels like such a safe place to heal.

Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune Friday, July 31, 2015 (Close up of Becky running tethered to her running partner)
Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune
Friday, July 31, 2015.

It is a privilege to work with clients to create their own resilient plan as they face life challenges and navigate the turns in their road. As we begin this journey, it may seem like coping is the best we can do. Soon we transition to thriving in the journey. As a woman in Chicago shared when I was presenting on Coping with Vision Loss, “I don’t want to just cope I want to thrive!” Indeed! The remainder of my presentation transitioned to thriving. We can thrive in the journey.

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style – Maya Angelou 

We do have the ability to bounce back and thrive under adverse or challenging circumstances. We can rebound from life’s difficulties and challenges in a healthy, transformative way. For me, vision loss has become an incredible teacher and helped me transform, thrive and give back in so many ways.

Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune Becky Andrews with her third guide dog, named Georgie, in downtown Salt Lake City, Wednesday, August 12, 2015.
Rick Egan | The Salt Lake Tribune
Becky Andrews with her third guide dog, named Georgie, in downtown Salt Lake City, Wednesday, August 12, 2015.

After completing the Brene Brown Daring Way Training a couple years ago I knew I wanted to bring a group of women who were also experiencing blindness to come together. Last year 20 women, all blind or experiencing a degenerative eye condition, came together for two retreats.   They came to Utah from various parts of the country. My heart is full of gratitude for these remarkable women and the opportunity to share in this journey together of Daring to Own Your Story. This summer we will expand this program with two more retreats. Details are at www.resilientsolutionsinc.com/retreats.

owning-our-story

As a business owner, licensed clinical mental health counselor, motivational speaker wife, mother, avid marathon runner, cyclist, hiker, traveler, friend, and now author: Look up, move forward; who happens to be blind, my life is full of abundance. I am grateful for my vocational rehabilitation counselor many years ago and so many others who encouraged me to find new doors and gain the adaptive tools to do what I wanted to do.     

I shared the following after reaching my goal to run the Boston Marathon:

Throughout my life, there have been many challenges much bigger than the work of qualifying for or running the Boston Marathon. However, running has become an incredible teacher and a great analogy for other aspects in my life. When I dream big, when I am persistent and don’t give up, when I tackle challenges with grit, accept help and lend a hand to others with gratitude for all that is around me, I create a life that’s rich, peaceful and full of joy. It’s exactly the sort of life I’ve always wanted. Page, 207 Look up, move forward.

Remember, dream big.  You got this!

Helen Keller A bend in the road quote with an imager of a tree-lined highway

Becky Andrews, LCMHC, FT, Positive Psychology Life Coach, EMDR Therapy Provider at Resilient Solutions, Inc.
Author of Look up, move forward
Director of Oasis Center for Hope, a nonprofit with the mission to support, educate and empower individuals, families, and communities experiencing a loss.

She can be reached on facebook:  Becky Andrews, Author and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor
Email:  lookupmoveforward@gmail.com
www.resilientsolutionsinc.com

Author: Steph McCoy

Hi I'm Steph, a businesswoman, style setter, blogger, and abilities crusader who breaks the myth that “blind people can’t be fashionable.” “It’s about walking boldly with confidence, transcending barriers and changing the way we perceive blindness”

22 thoughts on “Women On The Move: Becky Andrews”

    1. You are most welcome. It’s good to know that sharing these stories serve as an encouragement to others to keep pressing onward and reminds us that we are not alone. Thank you also for the award nomination, I really appreciate it and value your kindness. Unfortunately this is an award free blog but please accept my gratitude for thinking of me. 💖

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      1. I think people mean well, but they see me coming with my cane walking towards a door and they’re determined to open it for me no matter what—but of course rarely all the way, leaving it at a diagonal so that I will likely crash into it. And if I survive that, I loose my orientation preventing me from knowing which is the side to go into. And in doing this, they’re usually standing in front of the door so that I hit them with me cane and generally trip all over them.
        And of course, NEVER asking me if I needed help opening the door in the first place, which I rarely do. Door-opening is probably the one skill this blind girl can do. And brush my teeth. And get milk on my cereal. (OK, I’ve got three skills.) Maybe I could get a job as a doorwoman at the Waldorf in New York. Carla Ernst

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      1. Carla, the same thing happens at doors to me with my wheelchair. I appreciate help with heavy doors, but people do exactly the same as they do to you. I have to be so careful not to run over their toes and get through a half opened door. I usually tell them to watch their toes because I don’t like to run over toes accidentally.

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