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A Lil’ Inspiration #22

Giving In Is Not Giving Up

“2009 marked my last unsuccessful vitrectomy. “I’m sorry there’s no more we can do for you” the doctor’s voice was like a distant echo and just like that I was declared legally blind.”

Professional business headshot photo of me In June of this year, it will be eight years since I was declared legally blind. If someone would have told me prior to my eye issues that I would survive without seeing I would have told them “no way!” I am so thankful reality is so much better than the fears I drummed up prior to my sight loss.

I can’t lie, going from darn near perfect correctable vision to no longer being able to see the eye chart was scary. So many questions like how am I going to work, how will I be able to remain independent, how can I do the things I used to do, how will I enjoy life? For many long days and nights, I was paralyzed with the fear of facing the unknown and I never felt so alone. Then something amazing happened…

I gave in. I didn’t give up. Once I faced my fear it opened the door to new and exciting opportunities. I learned how to use assistive devices to maintain my independence, keep my job, and navigate the world on my own. I got heavily involved with several blindness organizations working for justice while simultaneously breaking down stereotypes and most importantly, I now have the most amazing people in my life I would not have met if I did not experience sight loss.

Blindness is not the worse thing that can happen to a person. Never underestimate your resilience through any challenge. You are far more capable of not only continuing onward but thriving as you move forward.

Happy Friday & Have a great weekend!!

34 thoughts on “A Lil’ Inspiration #22

  1. You are so strong and wow such an inspiring person!

    1. Thank you Diana! How are you?

      1. Today, tired. But gotta keep one foot in front of the other.

      2. Sorry to hear that. Hang in there one step at a time.💖

  2. Sometimes you really don’t know what you can do, until you’re pretty much forced to do it. Love the message here, which I take to be: “Just keep moving forward.”

    1. Amen Kathy! 👍🏽

  3. Reblogged this on NOT MY SECRET…overcoming the shame of sexual abuse and commented:
    Reblogged from an incredible woman

    1. Thank you for the reblog. 🙂

      1. thank you for writing such a wonderful piece! And giving wisdom and valuable perspective to all of us.

      2. Thank you for coming by, reading and commenting. I appreciate your kindness. 💖

  4. Steph, this is a truly inspiring post. A very wise distinction between giving in and giving up. I can’t imagine how devastating that first diagnosis must have been. But here you are – not only surviving but flourishing and offering hope to others.

    1. Thank you Robyn😊

  5. What a great post. You have a wonderful attitude. I love reading your blog.

    1. Thank you so much for the compliment. 💗😊

  6. I am legally blind too due to a eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. Your blog is so inspiring to read. I believe God always guides through whatever we want to achieve.

    1. Hi Uneka, Welcome and thank you!! It’s great to have you here. I have a lot of friends who have RP and a few who have Usher Syndrome (RP and hearing loss).

  7. So glad you found strength, courage and a way through the challenges.

    1. Some days like everyone else I still battle but on those days I look to others in my network for inspiration. Connecting with people here on WP and Instagram is especially fulfilling.

  8. You are amazing! We all have our trials but our attitudes make all the difference. You have the right attitude and that is inspiring. 💖

    1. Thank you Camie😊 Believe me in the early days my attitude was a tad crappy but thank heaven for second chances. 💖

  9. Onward, forward and upward Steph! I do believe turning negatives into positives is what successfully juggling our way through life boils down to. You’ve certainly done just that!

    1. You are spot on Bruce. It took a greater part of my life to learn this lesson and there are days I still feel a little off kilter but that’s okay. As long as I’m still here there is something worth fighting for.

  10. You really know how to motivate people

    1. Thank you Ben.😊

  11. You have such a wonderful attitude and you share it with others. You will lead the way for others in our situation.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind remark. If I may ask do you have vision problems as well?

      1. No I don’t have vision problems besides age related reading glasses. I had some serious health problems myself and I know that our attitude is half of the “rent.” No matter if it’s dealing with cancer or vision problems or chronic diseases, we always have a choice. We can be miserable and give up or we can try to adjust.

      2. Yes, you are 💯% right. When considering the alternative I’d much rather adjust. But I’ll tell you what though I wish I would have been more adequately prepared for age related issues. The whole grunting when rising from a seated position, tooting in inappropriate areas, hot flashes although I don’t get them as frequently as I used to.

      3. Yes, menopause is a surprise isn’t it. I wasn’t prepared either. I thought I was going to have a heart attack when the first hot flash hit. 🙂

      4. YES!! Me too it came out of nowhere. I was at work, freezing cold so I went to put a pot of coffee on and before I could take my first sip I felt nauseous, broke out in a cold sweat, heart was beating fast. I thought I was gonna die for sure. I began having them in my late 30s and they’ve just began tapering off a couple of years ago.

      5. hahahaha Getting old does have its drawbacks.

  12. What a great way to put it into perspective Stephanae!!
    Good for you!

    1. Thank you Jodie. I hope you are doing well.

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