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A Lil’ Inspiration #10 Mel

A Matter Of Choice

Facebook Mel 2.3.16Today’s quote is an important reminder on perspective. I have a friend who’s endured one critical issue after another since the beginning of the year.

With the loss of two pets, several medical procedures, constant pain, family illnesses, adverse reactions to medications, and two heart-rending diagnoses within the last week, my friend has had her share of tough times. If all of this weren’t enough—having lost her eyesight several years ago due to life-saving cancer treatments—she holds on with two toddlers in tow and all while working.

There is no doubt that being blind has huge challenges but we do have control over how we choose to think about our circumstances. ~Mel Scott | BlindAlive

Image: Black & white chessboard with quoted text superimposed on top.

I know if she had her choice my friend would opt for a much-needed break because she said as much in a recent Facebook post. While my heart breaks for her I see someone who has refused to let these tough life’s situations defeat her and she has done so with honesty, grace, strength, and a remarkable sense of humor.

While it’s true that things are easier said that done I want my friend to remember that she is a fighter, she’s not alone and she is still STANDING! I love you girl!

 

33 thoughts on “A Lil’ Inspiration #10 Mel

  1. Oh my goodness! I’m so sorry for all that your dear friend has had to endure recently! I will remember her in my prayers tonight…maybe God can send her some time off, relaxation, and a little laughter. She does have something going for her though, she has you for a friend! 🙂 xo

    1. Thank you Deb. She’s such an awesome person and even with everything she’s going though she keeps her sparkling sense of humor.

      1. That’s amazing, especially with all that she has faced, to be able to keep your sense of humor is a blessing really. She could easily let everything just bring her down and rightly so…good for her!! I hope things start turning around for her and soon!!

      2. Hey Deb, I received an email from her overnight on a piece she just wrote for her blog. I think you might appreciate it. I found it hilarious but at the same time enlightening as she touched on topics that may make some of us uncomfortable. The article is called bra-less and it can be found on http://www.blindmotherhood.com.

      3. She’s a delight!! How unfortunate that the sales woman was so indifferent to her needs. I know my Mom doesn’t like to go shopping anymore because she feels she’s bothering the sales people always asking what the price is because she can’t read it. You know I keep trying to come up with ideas to help others as well as allow me to quit my job and work from home, I’ll have to give some thought to creating something to solve this obviously popular problem/issue. Her story also reminds me of my Mother in the fact that she too had a mastectomy, actually two of them 18 years apart. Her most recent was 2 years ago, she’s doing fine now, thank heaven! However all her life she has worn ling-lined bras, and the one she has now is a mastectomy bra and she loves it. Well wouldn’t you the manufacturer is discontinuing it and we cannot not find anyone who has her size in stock. We even contacted the manufacturer asking if they had any and if they would reconsider discontinuing them. We have searched high and low for a long-lined bra, we found one, she tried it but found it to be uncomfortable. They just are not making them anymore. She has a bit of a belly and the short-lined bras are just too uncomfortable for her. So she has three of the ones she loves but they are getting all stretched out and worn so I’m trying to track down one somewhere to no avail. I told her I have one made if it came down to it.
        Holly’s daughters are adorable! Is this not a WordPress blog, I was looking for the follow button but did not see one. I will probably sign up for email notification as I love her personality! I have to go back and leave her a comment too. Have to finish my cleaning and then I can spend some time.
        Thank you so much for sharing this with me!! xo
        Wishing you a Supportive Sunday.. 😉

      4. Hey Deb, sorry I couldn’t respond sooner. My grandson was here and I couldn’t get him to take a nap. I’m glad you liked Holly’s post. Her blog is on WordPress but I believe she is doing the self hosting gig and I noticed there isn’t a follow button. I think when going this route you have to use plug-ins for all the little extras that are automatically built into WordPress.com.

        Sorry to hear about your mom’s issues having gone through two mastectomies and now no longer able to find her favorite bra. The other issue of not being able to read price tags, etc. is one that many people are experiencing and with such a large population of baby boomers, well let’s just say that once we hit 40 reading becomes a tad challenging. There are so many opportunities to make a significant difference especially within certain demographics that mainstream manufacturers, retailers, advertisers, aren’t overly concerned with their needs. Maybe this issue that your mom is having is worth investigating because she can’t be the only person having the problem. Perhaps it might mean looking at other marketing alternatives to make it work.

        Oh well, I’m going to try to get a couple of things done around here. It was great chatting with you Deb! Hope your Sunday is awesome as well. 🙂

      5. Oh Steph, as you told me yesterday, do not stress about it at all. I’ve been away since I wrote to you earlier doing housework, just hopped back on about 15 minutes ago. Always write whenever you have time and never feel you need to respond right away or that I’m waiting for an answer, I totally understand. My Mom told me there is a device in the store where you can put the clothing ticket under it and it will display the price, however she cannot read the display so now I’m thinking what if the device were to also say the price…I’m at the end of the baby boomer generation so I’ll need to get this figured out sooner rather than later! Speaking of Mom think I’ll go give her a call! Hope you had a wonderful day with your grandson, relax now and enjoy your evening. Thanks again for sharing Holly’s post!! 🙂

  2. She’s truly an inspiration to everyone. A belligerent, a brave, courageous and strong. I wish the best for her life.

    1. Yes she is!! Thank you for stopping by. 🙂

  3. Some people really do blow us away for sure.

    1. Hi Cameron! Yes, they do indeed and one can’t help but to draw strength from their stories. Thanks for popping in.

      1. Pleasure and thanks for sharing.

  4. I really like that quote and this website! Keep up the great work!

    Cheryl
    Plucking Of My Heartstrings

    1. Thank you Cheryl!! You made my day! 😀

  5. What an awful lot to deal with! I’ll be keeping your friend in my thoughts and prayers, and hoping things get better for her (and that she gets what sounds like a much-needed break).

    1. Thank you so much Sarah. I talked with her this morning to let her know about the comments being left here and she will be checking them out momentarily. 🙂

      1. Oh good – I may not know her, but I am still glad so many of us can send thoughts and prayers her way. Sometimes a little kindness from strangers goes a long way!

  6. My goodness, that’s a lot to cope with. Your friend has my respect and admiration for being able to come through all that and keep her determination and sense of humor intact.

    1. I know it can’t be easy for her and all any of us can do is to keep her in prayer. She is a warrior and a person I deeply respect.

  7. Question?
    How does she do facebook? Do they have Braille keys or does she use dragon ? It is a cool software. Sometimes it makes it easier to write.

    When I was in fourth grade, I went deaf. My mom hit me on the back, thinking I was ignoring her. But I did not hear her. Eventually they did surgery on both ears. I could hear better, but I still have tinnitus a lot.
    I learned to read lips. Some are easier than others…;)
    My left ear is messed up because of a loud noise. I think it ruined the little tiny hairs that help a person to hear… but….I still read lips from time to time.

    1. Like many of us she uses a combination of magnification and screen reading software programs. For people who are totally blind they have very robust programs like JAWS that makes the PC accessible. For Mac users the software is built-in which makes it a little easier. I think it’s important to mention here that blind does not necessarily mean total lack of sight. In today’s post, this particular friend has no sight in one eye and very little residual vision in the other eye.

      I’m glad to hear that you were able to have surgery to restore some of your hearing. Having nothing to compare it to I can’t imagine not being able to hear.Thank you for visiting and commenting. 😊

      1. Thank you for answering. Technology has come pretty far these days. I did not know about mac or the Jaws program. I think I have read on some progresses on the eye. But it may depend on the extent of damage done?
        I was interested in the artificial limbs such as the leg. Arms are more complex because of the hands and nerve endings. But many people are working on many things now.
        You friend is a type person who doesn’t lay down and give up. And she has kids.
        She sounds like a great friend to have. 🙂 She Is special.
        Thank you for sharing the information on your blog.

      2. You’re very welcome. Thank you for asking and yes we have made so much progress with today’s technology.

  8. There are some people who just have it in them to be able to take on so much!
    And here I think I have it bad….wow…she is a real fighter!! And it takes a lot of guts and patience to be able to do that.
    I admire people like that. 🙂

    1. As do I. Thank you for commenting. 🙂

  9. Wow. That is a lot that your friend has had to deal with and sounds like she has done so with a great attitude and strength. I pray she gets a much needed break from the bad things in her life and a lot of good comes her way in the future!

    1. Yes it’s so much for anyone to handle and she keeps on going. Thank you so much for your very kind remark I will let know and I’m sure she’ll appreciate it. ❤

  10. Wow. Puts everything in perspective, doesn’t it. She’s lucky to have a friend like you, as well.

    1. Hi Diane, thank you for stopping by and commenting. Have a great rest of the weekend!😃

  11. What a great quote, Steph. Your friend is a remarkable woman, and a pure inspiration to us all.
    I often wonder why one person has to deal with so much in life ….

    1. Thank you Lynne! As soon as I saw her comment this quote came to mind and I thought it was so appropriate. She is such a wonderful person and I’m blessed to know and have her in my life. I will let her know what you said here. 🌹

      1. Thank you Steph, I appreciate that. x

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