Going Off The Grid
There was a time in my life when all I wanted more than anything else was peace. I eventually found it and one of the things that helped me arrive there was a simple blazer.
It’s hard for me to believe that it was around this time 24 years ago when I lost all of my material possessions. The situation was dire and one mistake could mean the difference between surviving or not. With three small children in tow I had serious misgivings but after months of creating a paper trail, filing police reports, an arrest, a hearing, and nearly escaping, only to be drawn back in, I had to take drastic measures – it was the only way.
Careful planning was critical and bringing in two close friends to help me getaway kept me up at night as I was concerned for the safety of us all. Every call I made had to be followed up by a separate call to a different number so that my original call could not be traced. Even though I rehearsed the plan in my mind once the day arrived my nerves were on edge.
I had previously given my two-week’s notice at my job because things had gotten so out of control at home that I was afraid for my co-workers and the only way to ensure their safety was to leave. Calling off work on my last day was necessary so that I could monitor things at home and tie up any loose ends before making a hasty departure in the wee hours of the following morning.
Life is different when you lose almost everything you worked so hard for and it changes your perspective. Small things like the kindness of a stranger or sitting around a kitchen table with women who shared similar experiences and being able to laugh meant so very much. It meant we were surviving.
While I felt a little strange accepting donations of clothing and other necessities these things helped to create a sense of normalcy in a situation far from normal. My oldest son, who was in 1st grade at the time, was enrolled in an area grade school and each day while he was in school I began the task of rebuilding our lives.
Living in a temporary environment with other women and children wasn’t easy but it was essential as it kept me motivated in taking back our lives. Looking for housing, job, and day care were just a few of the things I needed to do to get our lives back on track and the one item that helped me to keep it together was a black blazer.
While I may have had little else, my black blazer was a constant companion that I continually wore when I had to take care of business. Aside from the versatility of this garment it also gave me a boost of confidence whenever I wore it.
Though a couple of decades have passed since that tumultuous time, blazers continue to be one of my signature pieces. For me whenever I put on a blazer, and especially a black one, it’s all about business.
In the three photo collages one set contains four blazers and the other sets are two outfits I created on Polyvore described below:
- Outfit #1 – Black blazer, black & white striped long sleeve tee, blue jeans, black bag & camel ankle boots
- Outfit #2 – Black blazer, black & camel striped midi dress, black ankle boots, camel bag & black sunglasses
I saw a quote today that I’m going to have to paraphrase but it said something to the effect that just because we are experiencing tough times with a smile on our face doesn’t mean we are phony, rather we are making a conscious choice to be the best we can be in the given situation.