This Is Not a Dress Rehearsal
My brother, Robert, is always reminding me that life is the real deal, no second chances, no do-overs, no cut, copy, paste. Life is the ultimate reality TV the only difference is we cannot choose what clips we are going to broadcast and which will be left on the cutting room floor. Everything we think, do or say can and will have an impact on someone if only on ourselves.
When I was pregnant with my third son, I had a sonogram that indicated there might be a problem with the baby. Amniocentesis, the diagnostic procedure used in utero to see if the baby had certain genetic defects or if there were possible obstetric complications was the doctor’s recommendation. Without blinking an eye my reply was an emphatic NO.
Of course the doctor went on to explain all the issues that my son could have and why it was important for me to have this procedure so that all the cards would be on the table and I would have “options”. I explained to the doctor that knowing the worse-case scenario in advance would not alter my decision on terminating the pregnancy. I was afraid for my son but he deserved a chance at life and my prayer for him was that I would be a capable mother for him.
I carried the baby to term and while he had some initial problems that necessitated him being in the neonatal intensive care unit for a few days after his release he thrived. Today he’s a healthy 24-year-old and the father of my first grandson.
I’m a thinker, I over think everything and I doubt myself countless times but on the decision to abort my baby based on the outcome of a test result there was no debate. If my son were born with a disability then I was willing to do whatever I needed to do to ensure he knew he was wanted and loved. My love for him and my other two sons was never based on their purported wholeness I only wanted them to be healthy.
The miracle of conception, evolution of the fetus, to birth is wondrous. Thinking about the human body’s bones, blood vessels, organs, muscles, cells, molecules, atoms, and how these thousands of interrelated parts work together is mind-boggling. Add to it the fact that from the beginning of time each of us is a totally unique individual is uncomprehensible.
Think about it – over 7 billion people are populating the earth and there is only one of you. You are not perfect but you are precious, an invaluable treasure who cannot be duplicated, imitated, replaced or recreated. This is it, this is your time to sparkle and shine to be the best you – celebrate you!
A couple of years ago someone sent me an email of the most amazing TED Talk featuring Alexander Tsiaras who presents Conception to birth – visualized and I wanted to share it with you today. Since the video isn’t accessible I’ve provided the text below with the evolutionary steps of baby from conception to birth:
- Egg Inseminated
- 24 Hours Baby’s First Division – The fertilized ovum divides a few hours after fusion…
- And divides anew every 12 to 15 hours
- Early embryo
- Yolk sack still feeding baby.
- 25 Days Heart chamber developing.
- 32 Days Arms & hands are developing.
- 36 Days Beginning of the primitive vertabrae.
- These weeks are the period of the most rapid development of the fetus.
- If the fetus continues to grow at this speed for the entire 9 months, it would be 1.5 tons at birth.
- 45 Days Embroyo’s heart is beating twice as fast as the mother’s.
- 52 Days Developing retina, nose and fingers.
- The fetus’ continual movement in the womb is necessary for muscular and skeletal growth.
- 12 Weeks – Indifferent Penis – girl or boy yet to be determined. Baby is sucking thumb.
- 8 Months – Fully formed
- 9 Months – Expulsion/Delivery
“Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you’re alive, it isn’t.” ~Richard Bach