When facing new situations sometimes I wish so badly that I could fast forward to the point where I would feel comfortable, you know what I mean? Situations like the first day at a new school, new job, new church, new doctor, new dry cleaners, new social group, and so on.
As an introvert, new situations have always caused me to feel a certain amount of unease however depending on the circumstances, I can more easily adapt. Take work for example, when I traveled to the UK 17 years ago it was my first international trip that I took by myself to attend a huge conference sponsored by the company with whom I was employed. One of my British colleagues met me at Heathrow airport to take me to Stakis St. Ermin’s Hotel (where I would be staying) located in London. On the way to the hotel I felt like I was in a daze because I just could not believe I was in England but here I was riding on the opposite side of the road, seeing double decker red buses and the very cool black taxi cabs.
Getting outside of my comfort zone came very easy when it was work related I think because I viewed it as a task. It was so easy in fact that I found myself leaving the hotel in a strange country to take a walk and on my stroll I saw Buckingham Palace, then a little further came upon street blockades and tons of people milling about. I soon found out when I called my stateside office that Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip were celebrating their golden wedding anniversary and I walked right by the soiree completely unaware. My co-worker Cathy tried to coax me into going back and taking pictures however I had to decline as I had to prepare to visit the London office. The irony of the situation wasn’t lost on me as only I could travel close to 4,000 miles and end up smack in the middle of an extraordinary event without a clue.
The rest of my stay in London was jam packed with a tour on the Thames, The Tower of London, Westminster Abbey, Harrods, I had fish and chips at a little pub, did high tea and I even took the train to Gatwick to meet up with one of my previous bosses who lived in Pittsburgh as an expatriate. It was such a remarkable experience that really afforded me the opportunity to stretch myself in ways I didn’t think possible.
It’s when I remember past experiences like my London trip that I know I can get through most anything but it can still be difficult when in the midst of change. At present living in a new complex is causing me a little angst partly because I’m afraid of how I’m perceived. Case in point, my cousin Charese, brother, Robert, and a couple of other people were having a conversation and to make her point understood, Charese was telling us how rudely people act when I’m using my cane. Sometimes I too am aware of the stares but I can’t read the disgusted facial expressions that are aimed in my direction and for this at least I prefer to be in the dark, which leads me to the point of today’s post.
In preparing for this post I came across a couple of facial products I wanted to share and during the process found an interview, and from a completely different blog, a Ted Talk from a motivational speaker named Lizzie Velasquez. The first time I saw Lizzie was on an episode of The Doctors a year or so ago.
I’ve always been fascinated by rare medical conditions and the people who live with and overcome these syndromes. Lizzie is only 1 of 3 people in the entire world who has this disorder that is so rare there isn’t even a name for it. In short, Lizzie cannot gain weight and while I’m sure there is more to the condition than a lack of body mass in Lizzie’s own words that’s how she sums it up.
The idealistic part of me likes to believe that most humans are good, kind, reasonable thinking people but then when I am faced with the unspeakable cruelty of folks I wonder how we can co-exist on the same planet. Why is it that just because a person doesn’t’ walk, talk, think, act, dress, or look like we think they should appear, that this gives us license to mistreat them?
As a skinny youngster I remember being taunted but to have someone actually say that “I should die” would seem to me to be overkill. But this is exactly what happened to Lizzie as a response to a YouTube video of her. She received thousands of hateful, nasty, malicious comments and her response was to take all that negativity and turn it into something positive.
Empathy, is it possible that this word no longer exist in our language? Are we so arrogant that we believe that we are immune to any serious malady that others encounter? Or is our hatred and lack of tolerance a much deeper symptom of where our society is headed? I don’t know the answers to these questions and honestly don’t care about the why because to me to be human means to have compassion, empathy and understanding for these traits separate us from the animal world.
Lizzie is an amazing 25 year old young woman who is on a path to achieving her personal goals and in the process is bestowing on us the gift of changing the way we view beauty. In my humble opinion I think Lizzie is one beautiful person who exudes courage, integrity, positivity, and strength. I actually feel sorry for the bullies who picked on Lizzie and I sincerely hope that they won’t have to go through any major life circumstances which may put them at the mercy of people like themselves.
The facial products that I saw were on a May episode of The View which re-aired last Friday and unbeknownst to me was the interview with Lizzie which I felt compelled to watch after seeing her Ted Talk this morning. If you would like to view the Ted Talk you can get to it below:
It does my heart good to report that the video has received over 5 million views. Could it be Lizzie is making and impact?
In preparation for summer The View featured dermatologist, Dr. Doris Day, who presented several cosmetic products that do double duty as they contain sunscreen. The product line that captured my attention was Laneige carried by Target. Dr. Day demonstrated the BB Cream which comes in 3 shades (light, medium and dark) and it’s SPF 50. Since I do not like to wear foundation in the summer when Dr. Day said that this BB Cream contains optimized water that cools and hydrates the skin I thought it could be a possibility. The Laneige Sleeping Mask was another item recommended by Dr. Day that I might consider.
There were a few other products I found interesting that I will write about next week.
“A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Proverbs 25:11 (NIV 1984)