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Aesthetically Pleasing

Carpe Diem

Found on lookandlovewithlolo
Found on lookandlovewithlolo

Today is ridiculously beautiful. My Android says it’s about 63 degrees but when I took Mollie out my internal thermometer indicated it was considerably warmer.

Keeping in mind I’m in that stage of life where I have what I like to refer to as ‘private summers’ it took my youngest son, Arian, to confirm that yes, it’s very warm outside.

So after my workout I changed my gear, threw on a tank top, athletic capris, a light jacket and Mollie and I enjoyed a lovely walk. I had to keep reminding myself that today’s weather is only temporary as ‘word on the street is’ more cold and snow are headed our way, oh well.

Why do we close our eyes when we pray, cry, kiss, dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt only by heart. ~Unknown

I came across this quote the other day and I thought “that’s really deep” and I wondered how can I make this applicable to today’s post? Then I was transported back to a time when aesthetics were very important to me. I constantly worried how I appeared, how my kids appeared, how my place appeared, on and on it went. Having an artistic background helped to fuel this whole thought process and I remember one time when I was actually accused of being the ‘Martha Stewart’ of the non-profit for which I volunteered. Most people would have taken it as a compliment but not I, no sir, to me it was a back handed compliment at best and an outright put down at worst. I took it as a personal attack on my character because presenting a good image was integral to who I thought I was.

Found on lookandlovewithlolo
Found on lookandlovewithlolo

Spending time and excess energy on getting things ‘just-so’ allowed me to feel in control. Anything to the contrary would send me over the edge but I would tell myself “this is just me being me.”

Oh boy was I ever wrong. Had I spent more of my time focused on content as opposed to the images I was portraying I think my life would have been so enriched. I was always worried about what other people thought of me and felt like I fell short of meeting others’ expectations.

Found on lookandlovewithlolo
Found on lookandlovewithlolo

Then I lost my vision and had to reevaluate my priorities. I think most of us at some time in our life struggle with insecurities and wanting to be accepted, this is part of the human experience. I also think when we try to be something we aren’t or work to meet someone else’s approval then we are denying that part of us that is genuine.

The loss of my vision has helped me to accept myself as I am and to stop the people pleasing behavior. It has also helped me to really tap into other people beyond physical appearance. Once you take vision out of the equation you really begin to see things differently.

Found on lookandlovewithlolo
Found on lookandlovewithlolo

Today, if I had but one message to my blind and vision impaired friends I would say yes, the image you portray to the world is important but what’s more important is being you. I started this blog because I believe blind and vision impaired woman want and have the desire to feel and look their best. My mission is to help to fulfill this goal by equipping you with the tools and information that lead to a positive outcome.

In previous Trending Tuesdays I mentioned that pastels are a favorite for spring 2014. Throughout today’s post I’ve included 4 pictures of some lovely pastel shades. I found the photos on lookandlovewithlolo.blogspot.com from a UK retailer (links provided).

  1. Suit – Mint colored blazer and trousers with pale yellow blouse. www.madeleine.co.uk
  2. Soft Apricot Cardigan with matching trousers. www.madeleine.co.uk
  3. Floral Silk Dress soft billowy faux wrap dress in various shades of fushia and pink. www.madeleine.co.uk
  4. Apricot Dress is a sleeveless sheath with square neckline. www.madeleine.co.uk

No matter your style, if you wear what you like and like what you wear, wear it with confidence!! ~Steph

2 thoughts on “Aesthetically Pleasing

  1. I really enjoyed reading this. Loosing your vision, would have been such a challenge, and you appeared to have come out of it seeing clearer than you ever have before. Just amazing… thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you for your kind words Dina. Yeah, it’s been an interesting journey and I do see much clearer now.

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